Abusive Significant Other...
Not sure where to post those but i feel like this is the best spot to put it. me and my boyfriend have been together since november. until recently he was on drugs and would constantly abandon me. i was pregnant and had a miscarriage in may. i was almost 4 months. he didnt even show up to the hospital. his mom had to take me. i had to go to work after the hospital too.. he left me all alone a lot. he hit me in the face before. hes kicked me. thrown stuff at me. he called the cops on me when i cut myself to try and prove a point for bakeracting him when he was threatening to kill himself. he doesnt support any of my views. he makes sexist and racist remarks. hes so frustrating. i want to leave but i have no where to go and a shelter is not an option. he is so controlling i cant take it anymore.
Hey hon! You need to get away as soon as possible. It is not safe or healthy for you to be there. Do you have any family or friends anywhere close or far? If not, there may be an organization or church close that could help if you let them know your situation.
Hey Little Mango,
I know you probably don't want to hear this but maybe getting the police involved would be your best option. If you ever have a chance you should go down to your local police station and discuss your options with them. They can't prosecute him without you pressing charges but may investigate him for the drugs if you mention it. I am sure though that they would take domestic abuse very seriously and it may open some more options up to you that you didn't know was available.
I'm sorry for your loss
You should honestly leave him if he does not change; try confronting him (in a gentle manner, not all angry and stuff) and asking him to change his ways. If he agrees to, see how it goes: at first he might go along with it but then go back to "abusive". If that happens, really just leave him
I encourage you to look up Domestic Violence Advocacy programs in your area. They can assist you with all sorts of resources. The programs are free and completely confidential. You can just talk to them and let it all out. There's people out there who care and are there to listen.
You don't deserve what you're going through. He sounds like he really needs help in many areas.
