Emotionally Abusive Parents or Parent
I am a victim to emotional abuse, and so is my mother and sister. My sister has moved about about two or three years ago and I have about three or four more years ahead of me until I can legally move out. My father is an achoholic and he's been one for years. I'm hoping to meet new people who have struggled or is struggling with about whta I'm going through. 
Hey, I'm also a victim, to emotional, psychical and sexual abuse, but in this case my mum is the alcoholic and she is the abusive person or instagates the abuse, my dad can't deal with her so he is just never at home and I have just moved out but I'm still expected to be at home more than my place and without me knowing has just got a copy of the keys to my new place
@selfconfidenteagle6805 wow, i'm so sorry. I'm here whenever you'd like to chat. I understand how this feels, just keep your head up.
And about the keys, I'm pretty sure that they can't be allowed to have access to your place without your consent. I don't know much about it, but I don't think that that's even legal. Try to look more into thta, please. <3 And try to tell them that you have moved out, and have a lot on your mind. Say no when you don't want to see them. You don't have to have a reason to not see them.
@WeAreBrokenPeople
i don't know about the keys she just stole mine and got a copy and if I don't go home she comes up here and I live in a flat and security let's her straight in despite what I have told him not to, she is very very controlling and not going to let me go that easy and yes when I get 2 mins I will message you
That's a really scary place to be. I'm so proud of you for reaching out and asking for help. Have you ever looked into Alateen? It's a branch of Alcoholics Anonymous, designed to help teenagers deal with alcoholic adults in their lives.
I've got a little different perspective.... I'm a mom of a 14 year old and an 11 year old. They live with my parents because my health is abysmal. I spend a couple hours on the phone with them every week, and email like crazy with my son (my daughter doesn' thave an email addy yet).
Their dad, though. He's not an alcoholic. And he doesn't actively or intentionally (I think) abuse them. He neglects them. He hasn't laid eyes on them in 9 years. He hasn't heard my son's voice in three years or my daughter's in five. The last couple times he's called, he wanted to talk to my son, attempting to insist he really loves him. Which my son doesn't believe at all. But he's wanted nothing to do with my daughter. Who still believes with all her heart that her daddy loves her and wants to spend time with her. She asked me just a few days ago if I thought her daddy loved her and her brother and me. And the last time I visited, she asked if I thought he would take good care of me if we got back together.
I tell you all this to say that they're both in therapy. Once a week. I don't know if that would be an option for you. If it's not, you're in the right place here. I'd encourage you to take advantage of every option available - the 1-on-1 chats, group support chats, forum, feed, self help guides, all of it. Me, I'm trying to avoid going back into therapy, since my therapist is an hour away and crazy overbooked. So I'm doing all the things here.
@FlamingosWearLipstick
You have 2 choices, you can not mention to the children that he is calling but if they grow up and find out they might hate you for it, or you could give him a chance just for your children's sake, and arrange to meet him somewhere but don't tell the children that he is coming that way if he doesn't show they won't be disappointed if he shows it might mean that he has changed and wants to see them
@selfconfidenteagle6805 He's not calling. Hasn't in years. And meeting him somewhere isn't an option. He lives 1800 miles (2900 km) away from where the kids live.
I've been in contact with him over the years to deal with divorce issues, to ask after our kids' half-siblings (they have three half-brothers and a half-sister), and to deal with some business issues, since he's been a customer of mine for over a decade. He has not asked me anything about our children in over 7 years. Not once.
@FlamingosWearLipstick
ahh im sorry, maybe not then, i have enough with my mum nevermind an ex