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I would suggest having a talk with her, when you're both emotionally calm. Point out that she had her Life to Live, as she saw fit. You are entitled to Live your Life the way you wish to. Maybe mention also that her controlling nature is not improving your relationship with her

I once had a similar experience with my Parents. Being blunt... I was sick of hearing about something. I told them they've got a full hour to speak there mind, and get it all out. After that, I Never want to hear it again! Amazingly... it worked. Case closed

crimson, I went though a similar childhood with my mother and she continued to control me well into adulthood - so I know what you are talking about. I appreciate chrome's answer, and that is certainly worth a try. In my case, despite several times of talking- just as chrome described - it never helped. She has a mental illness and at least NPD that I know of and not sure what else. She was once committed to a mental institution by my Dad due to her outrages and physical abuse of us kids - but she is very crafty and charming so she didn't stay there long. She is now 80, and still in pretty good health. I just distanced myself from her as much as possible and that was the only solution for me and my sisters. I still see her, and she still criticizes, but I long ago I became numb to her, though it bothers me -I've learned to take care of myself. Just another option. There are Listeners here and self help guides that may help you get to a better place within yourself. I wish you well.

I have talked to my mum on several occasions. She just refuses to listen to me. She also accuses me of lying.

I know what you are talking about, sometimes there is no rational way to resolve things. Do you have other friends/family that can be a support for you? You may just have to step away as much as you can. i lived with what you describe for many years-- there is only so much you can do- and you probably will never change the heart relationship with her. There are Listeners here who may help too- reach out and let go of counting on her to reason with you if you can. I'm in your corner- it is your life to live-- she already had her life and that was her choice. Be strong - there is a better life ahead---I just KNOW it.
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I havee talked to my grandma. She said that I deserve to be controlled by my mum.

@crimsonMelon8700... hi there :) sounds like your having a chellenging timing dealing with your mom. Unfortunately i do know the pain, and suffering having controlling parents can lead too.. My parents are abit the same (Stero Type), If you ever feel like talking to someone you can PM me anytime :) I am 26 years old and slowly i think, i am finally winning my freedom back from my parents controlling ways.