Im Defeated!
The battle is lost, For 20 years if you get dominated vy someone you know as your own mother you forget the meaning of life. It's past crying cause they don't help me out, im just now fixing a date to get out of all these. If i do something she has problem with it, if I don't do then also the same. What should i do. Ya i understand she is like knows everything. But im tired. Im just lost and im defeated. This is ny first time here. I don't know can any one help me.
I can relate to ur pain. Exact problem
Please stay strong and try to live ur life. I donnow how to do that either. I have only hope
@passionatechestnut3380, my dad must be related to your mom, he sounds exactly like her. Do you have any prospects for being able to leave from living with her? Everything my dad does is right, he is never wrong. I lived through verbal and physical abuse from him, along with sexual molestation, and im a guy. I went to a counselor last summer because of grief from the loss of someone close to me from my past and the loss of my mom from the summer before. I cant remember if it was my first or second session with her, she asked if i had ever been sexually abused, i had never told anyone about this, including her. I never really cared to be close to my dad, even more after she told me that he was the cause of my depression and ptsd. Even with all of that, i called him this past Christmas, like i had all the time my mom was still living. He stayed on the phone 2 minutes or less then told me his family was calling him and he had to go.
@whyme11 you summed up my life but the only difference is i am a female and the abuser is my mom :( i have been through exactly what you have been through for years, now she is old and i have to live with her, she has changed a lot due to age but verbal abuse is still on going and controlling is still on going, my therapist also asked me in our first session if i was molested and he was sure that my depression was related to that and i have also told no one, this site is amazing to know that you are not alone of what you have been throuhg and that there are a lot of ppl who understand you and relate to you
Is there any way you can move away from your mum or assert yourself? Even little things like getting out of the house, making your own money, etc.
I work and I can live alone but I can't move out for so many reasons , tradition reasons , she will disown me if I did the same. I can't leave my parents alone and they r old now plus I love them. And God asked us to be good with our parents. Maybe u think this is a silly reasons. But these are my real reasons. Thanks for your concern