Dealing with trauma
So my grandpa called me today saying that he received a phone call from someone who my mother told to call him. He didn't get a reason, but it was about her. My mother and my cousin who I've lived with for years, ( my mom fourteen and my cousin, twelve. ) sexually, physically, and emotionally abused me. They turned themselves in to prison December 9 2022 and their press release came out the next day. They were both charged with sexual assault. My cousin is a level 3 predator and my mom is a level 2 or something. I haven't heard anything on the case since the last time I talked to my district attorney which was last year some time. Then my number changed so I didn't hear from her in a while. I finally called her back like a month or two ago and it went to voicemail but instead of her voice it was a mans. By the end of the call I was stressing out because now I have to wonder what devious plan she has. What kinds of bs she wanted to tell my grandpa. Like maybe she's getting out of prison and she wants to know my location. By the way she has a restraining order ,( both of my abusers do) and they are both on the registry. They can't touch me or come near me without getting in trouble. I haven't actually been able to relax.
My boyfriend and I actually made up today. Him and I were arguing today about trivial stuff. But then I got stressed about something and was venting to someone about it and I told him I wanted space but he kept annoying me and interrupting me while I was talking so O kept snapping at him. So apparently he went and laid down and I didn't even know it. I got a message from him saying goodnight, so I came over to see what his problem was and I accidentally tripped and fell on him. I laughed about it but I realized he was mad at me because she shoved me off of him with anger. I tried talking to him asking what was wrong but he kept ignoring me, giving me vague responses, and just saying he wants to sleep. I know hes mad at me because he keeps saying he wants to be left alone. I think he's offended that I kept pushing him away when he was annoying me. I was upset I needed space. How was I in the wrong?
Hi @Sugarnspice7890 😊
I'm really sorry about your mom and cousin. Even though it obviously wasn't my fault they did what they did, I'm sorry on their behalf. Which doesn't mean anything for some people, but if it means something to you, I hope it makes you feel better. Even if it's a tiny bit better. *hugs if okay* 🫂🫶
I'm not very experienced in any of this, but have you tried asking him what's wrong? Or why you're wrong to be more specific? And if so, have you looked at things from his POV as well as yours? Maybe both of you can talk about what's wrong/bothering you to see how it may be resolved. I know you didn't ask for my opinion on what to do, but I hope this is helpful ☺️