Hugs
I never though about phisical touch as something bad, honestly i always though that the idea of hugs or ruffle hair or touching in general was good. Im 18 and i just realices that i may have an issue with that, for context i Dont do much hugs or stuff, my family isnt like that and well Friends a bit. And i did a lot of times quick hugs or that stuff, yet my friend the other day told me that i Dont like phisical touch and i was like confused, so we tried It out. Like if making me concious that iwas being hold. She hugged me and i couldnt with It. Like really, i ended Up crying confused over being hugged, and i was so confused, we didnt talked much more about It, i cant hold hands or stuff or have a someone touching my face or anything in general, my heart goes like crazy i feel unable to hold It Up, like phisically unable to take phisical touch, i may feel dizzy or breath heavily, i always joke about getting nervous and that, yet Im uncertain, IS this normal? Commun? Or IS there something wrong with me?
@NoahVirel
There's nothing wrong with you.
It's natural, you don't come from an affectionate family.
So hugs are not the norm.
It's natural to be nervous and shy about these things.
And sometimes, people don't like physical touch and that's fine too 🤗💚
I mean it happens when you never received it from someone you deeply love or the one who should've protected you.
If you never received an Unconditionnal hug when you needed it most I mean of course it feels weird and even confusing.
Yet you know what? You absolutely have every right to feel that and you deserve that hug.
To be honest, wanting a hug or craving it is absolutely natural and human and since your family can't provide it of course you'd feel what you felt.
You can talk to me if you need someone to talk to here. I'm here and I'm listening.
It's not your fault to feel what you're feeling but when you'll receive it then you can absolutely live without that feeling because your nervous system will register it as safe.
I'm here and you can rest here. Okay?
And Noah when I'm talking about the unconditionnal hug it's the one that you receive when you ask for it and need it the most not the one that makes you choke.
I hope I was attuned if not then please let me know and I'll repair it I don't mind ☺️.