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I need help understanding what happened to me

User Profile: SweetGrapes23
SweetGrapes23 July 19th

TW SEXUAL ASSAULT MENTIONED

I don’t think it was actually sexual assault but Im trying to figure out if there’s a name for what happened to me. Idk if it’s relevant but I am autistic.

I was on holidays and it was like 10 o’clock and I was drinking at the bar with my family (I am under the legal age for drinking, but where I live it’s pretty normalised for people my age to drink since I basically am old enough. And my parents don’t mind me drinking as long as they’re there yk) but there was like a playground thing by the bar and I wanted to go on the swings, and it was our last night so it was my last chance to do it.

But there was a boy who older than me (Im not sure how old bc Im not good w ages) my family convinced me to just go. So I went to sit on the roundabout that was beside the swings to like signal that I wanted to go on the swings. As soon as I sat down he came over and sat right beside me and started speaking in Italian which I don’t speak and then he felt my hair and I was saying that I don’t understand and stuff and then he grabbed my hand and put it on his face and held it there. Then he started talking again and he got his phone and showed it to me and he was on a picture of a gun and he was talking and like very close to me. I didn’t move because I was so scared and Im really upset about that. My dad then texted me and I just told him that my dad was asking me to come back, even tho I knew he probably didn’t understand me.

I googled it and it said in my country it counts as sexual assault but idk. I just wish it never happened and I was to cut off all my hair and my hand.

Im not educated on this subject and every time I think about it I get a really heavy feeling and I just get really upset. He also stared at me until I basically ran back to my room.

Idrk what to say but if u r able to help or know if theres like a definition for this or smth pls help

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User Profile: Amanda84
Amanda84 July 22nd

@SweetGrapes23

😔

I'm sorry you felt unsafe in those moments .

And it shook you up 💛

It's important to always be vocal about your boundaries and if you don't wish to go somewhere alone, make your family aware of this 

I'm sorry he made you feel so uncomfortable 💛

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User Profile: Kashali
Kashali July 23rd

What this person did was inappropriate and without your consent. You have every right to feel and call it what you want. You did not do anything wrong. I am sorry it happened to you.

You can decide if you want to talk more about it with friends, with us here, your parents, a therapist, etc.

Or you may want to educate yourself more on the topic and help others around you with information if/when needed.

You are very brave to talk about this. You are sling the right thing. You are not alone.