Masturbation and porn
Porn addiction and masturbation while watching it!
I’m trying to understand why a husband might struggle with this.
I’m not here to judge—I just want clarity and understanding.
I’m also struggling to understand forgiveness.
Why is it expected? Why does it feel so hard?
I have many questions, and I’m hoping for insight, not criticism.
@courageousTurtle1519
First off, I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but commend you for seeking help to understand your husband!
This is a very common issue that people (but especially men) seem to struggle with. There's no one answer, but it is often a trauma response. Many people use it as an escape, or as a way to deal with stress, anxiety, or other unwelcome emotions.
As for forgiveness - ultimately that's up to you. I can understand why it would be difficult, especially if you don't understand why he does it. It's also entirely possible that you are hurt by this behaviour, so perhaps it feels as though he should be asking YOU for forgiveness, not the other way around.
If it's a problem in your relationship, and something you want to work on, it might be helpful to seek out a couples therapist, who I'm sure will have lots of experience with this topic. 💓