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Toxic past relationships

User Profile: fearlessDrum7307
fearlessDrum7307 July 13th, 2025

Hi, I was in a relationship that really hurted me in all way possible (physically, emotionally and sexually) it was abusive, and for now it’s really hard for me to trust someone, to be comfortable with someone. I feel like it’s my fault if it happened, I mean he made me believe him about this. I am trying to get over it, i feel sometimes that i am over it but when i am trying to go to a new relationship I just think about all of this again and i am being extra careful about who the new person is and i can’t trust them in any way.

I am tired of it, it’s really hard.

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User Profile: Voodvins
Voodvins July 13th, 2025
@fearlessDrum7307 You consider yourself guilty and this is a common situation in such cases. Yes, sometimes such things can be attributed to the victim himself, but there is an important point. A person who has not received certain knowledge cannot be punished for not using it. You believed him because there were no situations in your life where the guy could be two-faced, or maybe you needed support and he realized this need and took advantage. That is, something in the past that was missed affected your present. Yes, perhaps some things could have been different, but you should not blame yourself. In your situation, only he is to blame. The problem is that for him this is not a problem, this is normal behavior. So of course, he will not repent, but this does not mean that subjectively he is trash. So try to accept that almost all the blame is on him and you must now become stronger. Do not let these thoughts destroy what is left. Hold on!
User Profile: eternalHero77
eternalHero77 July 16th, 2025

I was in abusive relationship’s an I agree wit you it’s hard getting into a new relationship. So much so after my 5th break up I was done wit man…. At least I thought it was when 10 years down da road i was assigned to work a man who was overly persistent in getting me to date him. Despite the fact he too had been abused as well as grew up bein’ bullied he was da best that’s I could of ever asked from a man. Due to my abuseI had no trust in him tho I wanted to trust but had a difficult time but he stood for da challenge. It was thee best relationship I ever could of asked for. We were together for years till his passing in 2020

User Profile: eternalHero77
eternalHero77 July 16th, 2025

I was in abusive relationship’s an I agree wit you it’s hard getting into a new relationship. So much so after my 5th break up I was done wit man…. At least I thought it was when 10 years down da road i was assigned to work a man who was overly persistent in getting me to date him. Despite the fact he too had been abused as well as grew up bein’ bullied he was da best that’s I could of ever asked from a man. Due to my abuseI had no trust in him tho I wanted to trust but had a difficult time but he stood for da challenge. It was thee best relationship I ever could of asked for. We were together for years till his passing in 2020