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Why do people romanticize it

User Profile: itsanawkwardquestion
itsanawkwardquestion October 14th, 2022

Why do so many people want trauma? It seems like I can't search for support without some random person saying oh how they wish they had trauma. Why? do you think it makes you cool? how cool would it be to suffer from insomnia every day, constant flashbacks, suicidal tendencies, higher blood pressure, never ending anxiety. How cool will it be then?

Sorry for going off on a bit of a rant but its something that's always bothered me

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October 14th, 2022

@itsanawkwardquestion I remember seeing stories of people who had been in a near death experience and then lived afterward with an amazing appreciation for life. I remember wanting the last part, not necessarily a near death experience. Then I heard the story of someone whose life had changed profoundly after such a harrowing experience, BUT he said the enhanced appreciation for life FADED. Anyway, that may be the reason for what you’re hearing. Folks may want the recovery part, not necessarily the trauma. That’s my guess. An appreciation for life may not require trauma or recovery. In my case, I didn’t go searching earnestly enough for happiness until I was backed into a corner by trauma. It has its plus as a motivating factor, but I agree, it shouldn’t be romanticized.

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User Profile: kayleebee
kayleebee October 14th, 2022

@helpfulAvocado7912

I concur that after a NDE, having an enhanced appreciation for life fades. It certainly has in my case. What I have been left with is a lack of fear toward dying.


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User Profile: BodhisattvaKuato
BodhisattvaKuato October 14th, 2022

Some people believe their lives are boring and whish they had something to complain about to get the kind of attention they seek.