i dont know if i can call this r**e...
i'm sort of stuck right now.
i (trans m,18) went to a bathhouse with my partner (m,18) after pride weekend. i was followed around by a bunch of guys throughout the night, which was to be expected, but one guy kept following me even after i turned him down a few times, first politely but then firmly. he kept talking about my "p***y" and i was visibly uncomfortable (and told him not to talk like that with me). later in the night, he follows me into a room with my partner where we (partner and i) had sex. after my partner got up to have sex with someone else, he (creepy guy) got on top of me and started fucking me, rubbing my stomach, kissing me, all the while im trying to get him away from me. he says hes going to "fuck me like a girl" and lays down on me, keeping me from moving, while his p***s is still inside me. i finally get him off of me and leave, but he follows me almost all the way to the door before i leave.
i don't know what to do. i feel like i was asking for it, in a way, simply because of where i was, but i still feel horribly violated. im having a hard time sleeping and i feel on edge all the time.
any advice or words of wisdom are welcome.
@sbkayclkar
You didn't want it, and you made that clear. It is rape. Doesn't matter where you were. I'm very sorry this has happened to you and I understand the confusion and sense of guilt you are experiencing. You didn't deserve what happened and it is not your fault. Have you been able to talk with your partner about this?
@sbkayclkar
No concent =Rape .It doesnt matter where you were, what you did, if you were drunk ,what you wear, who you are .Never let anyone to tell you or make you feel that you deserved it or you were asking for it . Rape is about power and entitlement not about sex . Its about someone claiming ownership over someone alse through violating their body and traumatizing their soul . Is about feeling entiteled to have someones body without their concent . All the emotions you have are normal and should be respected and never questioned by the people around you . You are a survivor . Dont feel ashamed cause the only person who should feel ashamed is the rapist. You feel violated because you were violated. Please dont allow anyone to make you feel guilty . Report it if you feel like ,talk about it if you feel like . You are brave and strong survivor and you are not a victim . Stay strong
@sbkayclkar the most thing that hothers me, is that people are taught that they were asking for it. YOU WERE NOT ASKING FOR IT. YOU WERE VIOLATED. You were clearly uninterested and expressed your uncomfort. Nothing that happened was your fault. Nothingggg. Im so sorry. I hope you can heal. Here to talk in chat anytime
