Groomer addiction?
@amiableBlackberry92
I think what you are talking about is related to Stockholm syndrom. Basically, its when a victim develops feelings for a captor. You can try searching it up if you want to know more about it.
@intelligentClementine7876
Yes I have investigated this syndrome. When I broke away from the perpetrator I felt like an addict. It took me 2 years to emotionally break away. I had help. Like any addict I have that feeling occasionally...... Difficult to describe.
I thank you for your support it's appreciated.
ABB
@amiableBlackberry92 I think you can. If you look at the methods they use. They make you feel special. They draw you in and make you feel special and even important to them. They make you feel safe with them. Maybe they offered a listening ear or said you had alot in common. They might fill a need. They can do It little by little - say all the right things. You don't even notice it. They gaslight and cause a great deal of self doubt and pick away at your self esteem. They make you feel like the problems are all your fault. Maybe the first few times they do it gently but sometimes they get nasty about it but sprinkle it with alot of sorrys that they have to do or say it. You can still feel love towards them - still miss them when they're gone. They want their targets dependant on them - addicted to them so they have control
@mytwistedsoul
Thx for your continued support. I am struggling as of late.
I hope your enjoying the season .
ABB
@amiableBlackberry92 *offers safe hugs* I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling. I often think that maybe it the time of year. The changes in the season's sometimes seem to bring fresher awareness to things we went through. For me the season's moving towards colder temperatures meant more time spent inside - which meant being more available to abusers
Is there anything I can do to help?
@mytwistedsoul
Thank you, just being here supporting me is incredibly helpful. Hugs always accepted.
I am not loving the cold season that's on it's way. I despise being stuck inside and I know it's got something to do with childhood experiences. It's very triggering for me. I found myself in good weather as a child wandering/ hiding in the woods that ran for miles behind our house. I remember older sibs taking me out there in the winter to ice skate, they were trying to save me and themselves from what was happening inside our house.
Currently I find myself outside every day here lately, it just helps my mental health. I currently am in a safe place fortunately. But as you understand , triggers can send us back to places in our minds we don't want to revisit.
The grooming situation definitely was a result of my mental health state due to all the childhood abuse I endured. I am better now but still struggle and likely to struggle for the rest of my life. Some days are just so difficult.....
Thx for being here.
ABB
@amiableBlackberry92 I used to do the same thing - spent as much time outside as possible. I still do tbh. I'm happiest being busy outside
It's so hard to convince our minds that we're safe - some days it can be easier but then other days - it is a total struggle and we try as best we can to navigate the triggers and we spend so much energy just trying to calm everything down. It's tiring and exhausting and I think that lowers our defenses farther
Are there things you can do - a hobby you could take up that you can do inside? Something that would counter the negativity of being inside?