Help - abuse by family
I really need some advice. I was sexually abused by my brother repeatedly from a young age but never told my parents it was him. At one point a therapist convinced me to tell them that I had experienced sexual trauma, but I still didn't say who. Now since then, for the past decade, any time I try to spend time alone with my mom she begs me to tell her who it was. She says she has nightmares about it and that she needs me to tell her before she dies.
I feel like either way I'm going to ruin her life. She thinks if I tell her she will feel better. But if I do tell her it was my brother, and how long it went on, I think it will tear apart my family, make things even worse for my mom, and infuriate my brother. I've thought about making up some elaborate story about someone else doing it just so she'll leave me alone and she'll feel better. I really don't know what to do, I just want to disappear. Thoughts / advice appreciated. Thank you
Why dear
Is there any reason for that
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Hello, I've sent you a message. I'm so so sorry you've experienced this. I'm here if you want a one-on-one talk.
@Elvinchild Oh darling, i really feel for you. I wass exually abused by my mums cousin, he was in his 30's and i was 8. It carried on till i was 11. Then at 13 my uncle groomed and raped me till i was 15. I know how you feel about making up a lie to protect your family but the only person it would protect is your brother. He abused you. I feel that your mum will completely support you 100% when and if you could ever tell her.
