Seeking understanding but don't know how to get it

In the past with other issues I have experienced it benefited me to speak to others who had at one point in their lives been in my shoes. It offered perspective and in some instances, actual hope. However, I haven't managed to make such connections in regards to this issue.

At the moment I am going through some changes in my life in regards to what happened in the past. After all these years, I'm finally in a relationship with someone who isn't abusive but I find myself somewhat lost.

In therapy and in self-therapy the focus had been on identifying potential dangerous people so that I wouldn't be in the position I was in again. I sadly do not have access to therapy anymore and at the time I was focused on recovery rather than healthy relationships and what I'd even do if I found myself in one.

My girlfriend is aware I do have some past trauma, but isn't aware of everything. One day I might tell her the full story but it is early days.