Sex drive
I was raped 3 years ago and I have had sex afterwards and been okay but I have lost my sex drive with my current boyfriend. Our relationship is strong and healthy. My partner is very sweet and caring and understands my situation and fears. I feel really bad because I can’t give him what he wants all of the time and I don’t know what to do. I try and force myself to have sex but then it’s painful and almost traumatic again. Please give me some advice.
Please do not force yourself to do that :/ you’ll only hurt yourself and make things harder. If your boyfriend truly loves you I promise he will be patient with you. Something my man and I did was to go very slow. And by that I mean take your time building up to where you are comfortable. If you need a break, take a break from everything for a while and don’t feel guilty. Tell him you just need some time. Then maybe when you feel ready just try making out. Take things really slowly and stop if you feel uncomfortable. Don’t push yourself more than you need to. Focus on you.. trust me your boyfriend is going to be ok. You are very much loved, don’t forget that :) it’ll get easier.
