Should I tell my bf
i was SAed by my ex (but not raped). it messed me up a bit but I'm in therapy and doing better. I still get triggered by things and some weeks are harder than others. Sometimes i feel very distant from the people I care about and sometimes I struggle with all or nothing/black and white thinking.
i have a new bf now, we've been dating for almost 2 months and he's great. Last night we had a conversation that triggered me. Should I tell him about my toxic ex and what happened to me? Is it too early? How do I adapt to a new relationship after what happened to me?
@ReadRose
Well, that really is up to you and what you feel comfortable with. I can share my experience.
I was not SAd but I had an unhealthy relationship that messed me up. When my current partner first showed interest in me... I kinda panicked after our first date and told him I just wanted to be friends. After I calmed down, I told him that I'd had a difficult past relationship and I was overwhelmed which is why I said what I did, but that I'd be interested in him if he still was. So we started dating. But I didn't give him any details about what had happened with my ex until 2-3 months later when I felt more comfortable. I still haven't given him all the details.
So what I'm getting at, you can always just give a very general disclaimer of "my previous relationship kinda messed me up and I'm still working through some of that. So if sometimes I react unexpectedly, it's not you." And then when and if you're comfortable telling him what happened, you can. :)
