Trying to deal with the long term effects
So I have cptsd I got sold into sex slavery as a child but that's not what this is about it's about now Im in a relationship with this girl who is super sweet and innocent and loves me sincerely she's a virgin very nice but can't relate to me at all when it comes to being severally traumatized repeatedly in every way imaginable and she kind of disses ppl for being poor which bothers me because I used to be homeless she tries to get slightly intimate with me but I'm low-key bored I'm a super passionate sexual person but only with my significant other I feel like she won't ever be able to match that and we don't value the same things but I have a friend who also has cptsd and terrible sexual abused history who is also super sexual and has similar struggles and values as me I haven't done anything yet because I really don't want to be this kind of person and I want to work on things with my gf but I don't really know how to tell her ? Ik I have to be patient with her but sometimes I wonder if we're just to different of ppl or if feeling like this is just a part of trauma ?
And if I did get with this other person would that be more or less healthy ? What's right what's wrong? I hate myself for feeling this way
@wittyguy1
I mean there's no right or wrong really. How you feel is valid. If you want to work on this relationship, then my first suggestion would be couples therapy if you're able. It's... hard for someone who has no experience with stuff like this to understand and you might not be the best person to explain it (if you get triggered and so on). So having a trained professional help you navigate this could be very helpful.
If you don't think the relationship can work, then just be honest with her. The sooner the better.