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User Profile: wittyShip1705
wittyShip1705 March 5th, 2018

I thought the mission was to offer support. I'm not feeling supported right now.

I've finally tried to speak out about some domestic abuse. I pressed connect now to try amd get some help. I was after a listener who knows about domestic abuse but don't know how to find a decent person. I was speaking to [name removed by AffyAvo]. I explained this to him/her. The replies were slow then they blocked me. I don't feel like I said something wrong. If I did then I'm sorry. I just thought that maybe I could find some support or something here. Right now I feel even more worthless than ever

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User Profile: AMusicalSilence
AMusicalSilence March 6th, 2018

Hey @wittyShip1705

I'm really glad you've come here to find support, it sounds like you've been through some real difficulty frown I'm sorry to hear that you've had an experience like this with a listener here - I'm sure it must feel somewhat disheartening... The trouble with pressing connect is that any listener can pick you up, regardless of their listening strengths, so I guess the person who picked you up didn't have much knowledge around domestic abuse - of course that's no reason to block you but I suppose sometimes people just panic... I hope this one experience doesn't put you off trying again.

I would recommend you take a look for listeners here who list domestic violence as a strength (those listed here are also varified listeners) if you feel comfortable dropping one of them a message, I'm sure somebody there would be happy to chat with you or to set up a time to talk smiley It may take a couple of people before finding somebody you really click with (I guess kinda like finding a therapist who's right for you!) but there are some really wonderful people here who can support you - I hope you'll be able to find one soon, best of luck!

User Profile: Emily619
Emily619 March 6th, 2018

Hey there! I second the reply above me, but I will add that it may as well be beneficial to check out the Domestic Abuse Support Community forums. Good luck!

User Profile: wittyNest2941
wittyNest2941 April 4th, 2018

Hello to another "Witty" member! I guess we share our names slightly.
Please don't be discouraged.

I was reading on the listeners and how they are trained. What you should know is that with domestic abuse being a bit sensitive of a subject, the listeners may in fact have some personal boundaries that make this a subject they do not wish to discuss as it could be triggering for them.

While the Listener you dealt with should have advised you if there was a boundary issue, and offered another option, (such as handing off the discussion to another listener), it would seem they didnt. This could be one reason for what you experienced, but I am not all knowing or all seeing in any way, so I can't answer for that person. But -- what I am trying to point out is that you should not give up...there are other listeners out there who might be a better fit for you.

Good Luck to you, WittyShip! wink