Newbies Check-In: June 10th -June 16th 2019
Hi. I'm new here and have talked to a couple listeners. My situation and what I'm feeling is complicated and don't know who the right person to talk to is, and honestly to reveal the whole situation is embarrassing. The truth is I'm not really sure what's going on. Maybe part of it is I am in denial and don't want to hear certain things. I don't know if it is appropriate to post this here, I guess I'm just expressing myself. Anyway, I think its nice that this place was created to help people, because there are those of us out there who are lonely and don't really have anyone to talk to.
It will be alright @GhostGirl44
@GhostGirl44 I'd love to listen if you'd have me.. ❤
@Bosslady9601 Thank you Bosslady. I am sending you a message.
@GhostGirl44
I too am in a very unique situation. It helped me to share it with someone and just kind of emotion dump. All of the feelings and emotion were overwhelming, but it made a positive difference, even if it was only a small one.
Everyone on here have helped a lot you should give them a chance to help you it will be ok trust them @GhostGirl44
Thank you for the kind words everyone.
@GhostGirl44 I am new here too and I completely understand how you are feeling. I have no idea what to think or feel or how to express most of it these days...
@GhostGirl44
Hello! Welcome to 7 Cups! You are not alone, a lot of us are here to support you and we truly care for you. Feel free to look into our Loneliness forums for support.
You can find them here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/LonelinessSupportCommunity_78/
@GhostGirl44
Myself and the entire 7 cups community is here for you. Each and every one of us experience all kinds of different issues and emotions at some point or another and, through these difficult or confusing, embarassing times is when we come together to support one another. Its ok to feel the way you do, just know you can reach out ot any listener whenever you feel comfortable and talk to them <3
Much Love xoox
@Tazzie
hi Im doing ok today still trying to find my way around
Hi(gh) @LostanLonely,
I wish I could say the same. Being a loner can be a temporary solution, but after 15+ years seclusion it's really not funny anymore. There are two things I can possibly do: 1) Regaining strength to cope with loneliness to turn negative back into positive, to turn desperation into determination, like " a loner isn't lonely but prefers to live his/her life on his/her own without the need for company. Solitude is bliss. A feeling of freedom and privacy above all things. A way of being independent and celebration of successful individualism: being your own saviour. Because relying on others is looking for trouble. Therefore, trust no one but yourself. In life as an grown-up adult, you're on your own, that's a harsh truth but it is the truth whatsoever. People are harsh, immoral and remorseless. A loner doesn't need them. A loner doesn't need trouble anymore. The best way to get out of danger is simple: don't engage in it. Prevention, rather than cure. Self-preservation is the highest law." And so on......
And there's a second option. 2) Breaking out of your self-made jail cell by looking for understanding, with a reopened mind and willingness to change, looking for attention and trying to catch attention of people with mutual understanding yet with much more experience than you do, experience that might be valuable to you and along with an initial helping hand meeting much more interesting people so one day you come back to the conclusion that not everyone is a priori trying to backstab you or out to hurt or harm you. Some help and guidance while trying to look around you, with a feeling like "it's not that bad after all, let's look for reliable and trustworthy friends again, it never harms if you open your mind (and your heart, also intuition never lies), it can be fun to meet new interesting people who are also interested in you.
...but where to find those trustworthy, funny, reliable, understanding so-called friends, right? To be honest, I completely lost my faith in such utopia. Life experience and human knowledge taught me so. So what do I have to do in this situation? Saying " forget about the second option, I want to go straight ahaid with the first one, all I need is finding back enough self-esteem, let's find out if there's someone who can help me out here"? Or rather try something like " Now or never. I don't live forever. To get the most out of life I need to get rid of bitterness, trying to smile again. We all got one life to live, it would be a shame not to enjoy every drop of it, the opportunity is here and now because here are people around with the life experience that I need to reach that goal."
...but honestly, I have my doubts, like always stubborn and hard to handle. Seeing is believing. I don't believe in miracles, I don't believe in that second option..... Until the opposite is proven.
So... To say it in a dead language: "Quid Nunc" ?
Looking for feedback on this, for sure.
M.
@Tazzie
I'm doing fine: a bit stressed out but I'm pushing through it. As for drama...... Nope, not much of it as far as I can tell.
@speaklove360
Glad you are doing okay. I hope you get relief from the stress very soon. Good luck!
@Tazzie
Thank you! :)
Hello, I am new here just trying to figure this out. I felt like I was out of options. And I can really use someone to talk to.
@affectionateClementine8688 I turned to the group chat and it worked great for me. I didnt find a listener right away. Please dont give up it will all work out.
@affectionateClementine8688
Welcome to 7 Cups! It's a pleasure to meet you. You can find available listeners here! Listeners can be filtered by country, topics, language and keywords. We also have group chats and forums in our Sub-Communities for support. You can find them here! [Click on the drop down menu in the top left corner and you will see a list of forum categories/Sub-communities]
Hope this helps!
Hi! I'm new here, still figuring things out, haven't quite managed to actually connect to a listener yet but still trying! Right now things are completely overwhelming, and I could really use someone to talk to.
Oh, and action! Love a good action movie.
I am new here. I just wanted to say hi, Not sure how to go about everything but I am looking to learn alot about other's and share some things about myself. I have recently cut ties with my family and I don't like to stay in my head so I thought it might be good to talk with other people. Thanks
There are some great people here I hope you can find someone to connect with. I moved to the group chat and it worked great for me. You can always chat with me if you cant find anyone else. @ChloeNLuci
@Tazzie
I'm okay I guess, things are busy and not getting as much sleep even though its summer (whyy) but I guess otherwise everything's okay
Action and drama can both be pretty good, though might prefer drama a bit more bc sometimes action genres are just fighting and no story (not saying this always happens just sometimes!)
The small flame of my heart illuminates like a candle. Drawing deep shadows towards my core. I flicker at the light as the wind blows out my desire. A game of hide and seek in the pitch black.
Hi. I signed up last week but have been taking things slow. I'm doing ok. Working on connecting with a listener to widen my support circle.
@Nokemes how do I start a conversation in the group?
@busybof3
Once you have your email verified, you can access group support rooms here!
@Nokemes I
@discreetNectarine7221
Welcome! Sorry to hear that you were experiencing some technical issues, but Im glad to hear you got everything resolved. Also, be sure to connect with a listener if anything is bothering you, or reach out to anyone here for support.
Hope to see you around!
@Nokemes
Hello, welcome! I hope you enjoy it here 