Am I wrong or my partner is too selfish?

Hello all, I need some advice.

I work as dance Performaner, usually it happens on weekends so I took Saturday off work to spend it with my partner. We had dinner planned with some of his friends.

So I found out a day before (Friday) that my daughter had a xmas concert at the church so I would be late for the planned dinner. I didn't know about it because I just came back from Brazil from visiting mom and my daughter stay in Canada with her dad, so he told me about the concert right the day I was going to pick her up.

I told my partner about the concert (we live together, and haven't spend any time out together since I came back from Brazil). I was hoping the concert would finish earlier so I would drop my daughter off at home and follow the plan with my partner. The concert got delayed, as soon as my daughter was done we left. Called my partner on my way, it was already late, I shouldn't have time to drop my daughter off, so I asked if I could take her with me, she is almost 13 years old, she never bother anyone when we go out for dinner, he told me to bring her with me. Main while my partner asked his friend, who also have a daughter 5 years old and bring her to dinner when he can not get a nanny, buy he said it was an "adult" dinner so I could not bring my daughter... So I left the parking lot of the golf course/restaurant to go home and my partner stayed for dinner with his friends. I was very disappointed and upset, I didn't go to work to be with him and he ended up lefting me. On my way home I got something to eat, got home changed, received a message from my partner to go back to the restaurant for drinks and desert. I was already upset, said I wouldn't go, first because I already had dinner and second I don't drink. I felt he prioritize his friend over me. Not sure if everyone is going to agree with me but I would had told his friend, I was a unpredictable situation and if I couldn't bring my daughter, we all would not be able to make it. I am sure his friend would had said yes to that, because that was a situation that never happened before, but instead I had a partner who left me even knowing I couldn't change the situation, it was not my fault and I left booked off work to be with me.

I feel upset and disappointed now and my partner think he is right.

How would you guys view this situation?