How to find women who don't hate you
I'm a music professor who has a terrible fear of women from decades of abuse and rejection. I know there isn't a single woman who sees me as human.
I haven't spoken to one my age in over 12 years without having to pay her. I've come here because I can't handle the isolation and thoughts of inferiority. I accept I can never be worth love or anything. I accept how much every female hates me with all her heart.
@charmingCurrent4350
How did you develop the belief that every female hates you with all her heart?
@charmingCurrent4350 I don't hate you🤗 and I'm pretty sure not all women hate you either ❤ we are all different, not everyone wants to hurt you. Good luck sweetie ❤
@charmingCurrent4350
I know how difficult this can be. I have a fear of men because of my past. One thing that has helped me is having healthy friendships with my friends spouses. With that, I can see that not all men are bad. And it helps me that they’re “off the table” and won’t see me in a romantic way. (Yes I know that men can still have affairs, but these particular ones never would.) But I still struggle with relationships with men who may want (or say they want) me romantically.
It’s hard to change those beliefs, but I believe talking about it and healing from the past helps. And is worth it. Glad you’re reaching out here. I hope you can find some answers and peace.
@charmingCurrent4350 the answer is within yourself, the therapeutical path helps not only to talk about the issue, but also to receive feedback from the therapist, an objective perspective that we, sometimes or perhaps usually, we dont receive from the people that surrounds us. Doesnt mean thats completely sure, that is, females hating you just because. Perhaps is the abuse you are talking about is the one speaking and created through time that belief that you didnt deserve love. The fact that you speak this out loud is a huge step for your healing as you are not keeping it to yourself. Thanks for sharing.
@charmingCurrent4350 If you are able to, seek professional help. It sounds like you have some trauma that is causing low self-esteem. Focus on healing yourself so you can show up in a healthy way in terms of dating. You have to believe yourself to be worthy or you may be self-sabotaging women who are interested. (Plus being a music teacher is a very nice thing that probably would attract lots of musically-inclined people once you have done some self-work).