Overwhelmed mom

@Rae322 

I lived that life once, long ago, so forgive me if this is not relevant to your situation. I'm just going to share from my perspective. I finally had to find someone who could come in a couple of times a week to give me a break and help me out, for my own personal sanity. I ran my own business from my home and remember my 3-year-old pulling my hands from the keyboard and saying, "No more, mommy" - heartbreaking. But I had to help pay the bills, and a 3-year-old doesn't understand that. I found a friend whom I paid a tiny bit when I could, to come over and take him to the park so I could work uninterrupted for a bit. I also paid a second person to do two things only - mop the kitchen floor and clean the bathrooms. That was money well worth spending, and saved my sanity. Your husband may work long hours and be tired, but you also work two jobs (your remote job plus motherhood) so you are tired as well. Sharing the load is part of parenting. Asking for one compromise is not unreasonable. For me, that came down to demanding that he take care of the kiddo for 30 minutes, twice a week, so that I could shower without kiddo in the room. It felt like a lottery win, lol. Also, I negotiated one trip to the grocery store per month without kiddo in tow. Turns out my husband was frightened of caring for our child on his own, as he had no prior experience with children, and that was why he had been fighting with me all that time. Once he got into the groove, he began to enjoy spending the time with him. You never know what is motivating someone's behavior until you really dig in. It just might be more than "I'm tired." All parents are tired, and you have a new baby on the way that will require additional energy and time. It's best to start the conversation now that this is too much for one person. 

@Rae322

Not sure if you are financially able work part time or reduce your hours? This would give you more time to manage all the things and maybe some breathing space to recover. Your health is so important. Sometimes we forget about ourselves, however if we aren't doing well we can not be our best for ourselves or others. 

@Rae322 Hi Rae! I hope you are doing well. I'm sorry for all the stress and exhaustion that you are going through. I can imagine that everything you're going through has been hard, especially while you are pregnant. You are doing amazing though! 

There is an amazing organization called Postpartum Support International that has a lot of great resources, including a Helpline that you can call or text, some free online support groups, a directory to help find resources in your area, the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline that you can call or text 24/7 to connect with someone urgently, and some other resources as well! You can message me if you need more information as well. I hope this helps! 🥰