Why do I keep falling for the wrong guys and ending up alone and getting hurt
Currently I am experiencing mixed emotione (sadness, frustration, desperation etc..) I just feel so dissappointed in myself.. So this happened: someone I was casually hooking up with just told me he was seeing someone else. This hurt more than I expected beforehand. I did grow fond of him even though the contact wasn’t that much, but he was ‘there’ for more than an year. When he told me he wanted to pursue things with someone else, it just triggered me. What does that girl has that I don’t? I did somewhat have an emotional response and now I feel guilty because I know that I look bad now.. I just feel ‘dumped’, because the message he delivered was only 2 sentences and came across very careless
I do know that the thing I had with that guy was casual and I know I shouldn’t do those things.. so thats why I feel so stupid that I fell for it again. I guess I had a glimmer of hope that the guy would start to see me differently.. He always told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but now he is with her.. and not me..
It’s just that this happens to me all the time.. i’ve been single for over 5 years now. Guys never see something more in me than just ‘casual’. I feel like I’m never girlfriend material.. They always tell me they are not ready for a relationship when things end, but then end up in one a few months later. I then feel so alone and ‘unwanted’ because all the guys Ive dated over the last 5 years are all in relationships now and I’m still the ‘odd’ one out. Almost feeling ashamed because of that..
I know I need to change something.. but I don’t know how. I just really feel that guys never see me as girlfriend material and that feeling sucks..
Hello there, thank you for opening up about what you are going through! That was a very brave thing to have done, good job :) Im so sorry to hear that you find this keeps happening to you. It must be incredibly annoying and frustrating, i very much get it. It is very normal that you would be feeling upset over this, their actions are quite confusing and anyone would feel the same if they were in your situation. I completely understand what you are going through, it sounds so so stressful and upsetting when this happens each and every time. You are not alone despite your thoughts, which are very valid, and many other girls have been in the exact same situation as you as well as feeling how you are- you are not the only one has been told this before! It is really unfair that it keeps happening. There is nothing wrong with you that is causing them to act this way, it is entirely their choice for their actions and you are not the one at fault-it is not your responsibility they say this to you. You can't control what they do, although I know that you might want to. Self growth and development is something which everybody should aspire to, but not for anyone else. For yourself as well as your own happiness, since that is what is the most important!
I hope that all is well and have an amazing rest of your day <3
