Will you marry a broke guy?
Well, it depends what kind of situation you guys are in.
You need to talk with him about marrying you right away.
It takes time, you and him need to discuss how exactly your going to do with payments and promise to try to bring income for either of you. Maybe you can ask his parents if they can support you or your parents as well with the finances. Being broke is a big issue. But obviously you need trust in him that he needs to bring in income sooner or later or maybe you can help him to get a job or something. Try to be realistic with him.
I say, you should marry him just know the risks.
@bestBubbles337 I prefer to say, men are romantic, women are pragmatic. There's a reason you're asking this question, but the truth isn't so palatable. Stability and security you seek.
Well.. I would if I can take care of our finances myself. And encourage him to become well off coz it needs two to live a life together. Two people earning is always better than one.
I believe we shall be capable ourselves and not be dependent on others, we create our happiness. It works both ways.
Disclaimer: This is my personal opinion and view that I shared. I don't know what exact situation you're talking about. Because it differs and depends on many aspects. You know your life best. We are here to support you.
@bestBubbles337
Will I marry a broke man? This question is situational for me. It is not simple being broke, it is about having ambition. One can be broke and finishing medical school, one can be broke and sitting around not making progress with their life.
I will NOT marry someone with no ambition or doesn't have anything going for them in their life. Mostly what happens is that there will be problems in the relationship because I will eventually feel the burden of finances and ask them how are they contributing. For me, I would rather be single, until I find someone who has ambition and we can build a life together.
From observation, I find that people with no ambition usually are problematic in relationships. Self- improvement is very important to me; and I feel that one should take care of their needs first before professing love to another. How can I love another if I am first not providing for myself? A broke person with no ambition is not providing for themselves. And therefore they will not be capable of providing for me. Their live will become my life, and that can lead to a controlling partner. One must have their individual life aspirations that they are working towards, for me to have some interest in marrying them.
@bestBubbles337
depedns on many things
its not a binary love or money
its several spectrums overlayed on top of each other
for romance you have : love , intimacy and care
for financial you have : current situation , future prospects and how hard he is trying right now
im not one to give advice without enough context and since i have none here i will just say
give both your brain and heart a chance to argue for and against this
and if you still have a hard time deciding maybe its not time yet to make such choice
talk to him and communicate with him , us guys are often dumb to emotions because of a pletheroa of factors we deal with day to day , so be open and honest with him and see how he reacts
if he loves you he will want to get better for you
I really appreciate all of your suggestions guys! this place is honestly best to pour your heart out! if anyone can reach me out i want to discuss this thing in detail please
Just jumping in here 😃
Money isn’t everything love is love as the saying goes and is much more enriching than money.
But go with your heart and you’ll make the right choice ❤️