Hello, good morning. My name is Jorge, and I am writing here because I feel like I'm going through a crisis in my relationship. I would appreciate it if someone could help me out a bit or shed some light on the matter. Please excuse my English, as I am not a native speaker and I don't speak it fluently.
The thing is, I don't know if I'm overreacting to the situation or what is actually happening to me. I would really appreciate an outside opinion, please.
I don't feel good with my girlfriend, whom I've been with for two years. The other day, she told me that if her friend were to tell her she saw me flirting with someone else at a club, she would believe her friend over me. Right now, I feel very detached from her. I don't want to spend time with my girlfriend, and I feel sad. I feel like everything we built our relationship on—or at least how I saw it—is a lie, that my efforts are not reciprocated, and that she isn't giving me the place I deserve.
My girlfriend and I were very close friends for over a year and a half before we started dating. She always said that I was her main point of connection and trust when it came to friendships; in fact, we've known each other since before she even met that other friend. In the past, I had issues with my ex-girlfriend because she would get jealous of my current partner—even though back then there was no attraction or anything more than a friendship. My ex started treating me badly at times, and I ended up breaking up with her because of that situation. I felt the way she reacted toward both me and my current partner was unfair, so I decided to stand by my current partner as a friend, because I believed she was worth it.
Now, I feel terrible about this because I feel my girlfriend doesn't value the effort I made for her back then and everything I went through. With her current lack of trust, she is being unfair and not giving me the place I deserve in all of this. She is also a very demanding person who absorbs a lot of my time, to the point where I've given up my own personal space and needs due to her dependency. I used to do it because I felt we were a special team and that it was worth it, but now I feel like I don't want to share space with her. I don't even feel comfortable looking at her; I feel awkward and just want to stay locked in my room. I really need to make sense of all this and get some guidance. Is what I'm feeling disproportionate? Thank you for your time and answers ☺️
