Introduction
Hey there,
I’m a female in my late 30s with 3 kids. I’m a veteran married to an active duty service member. been together for 15 yrs. There’s been infidelity, lying, working through it all to come out stronger to turn around and have it all come boiling to the surface years later… I just don’t get it…
We are struggling, I am struggling. I don’t even know where to start. 😭 it’s a lot
relationship advise/anxiety advice/ ADHD advise / PTSD advise/ T1D advise
im tired of being told I offend him by the way I speak, he hears a tone or attitude when I don’t think I have either or I’m working really hard to control that sound. Im always told I treat him like dirt. His ex is the way I talk to him and look at him. 🤦🏻♀️ I was on medication for YEARS at his probing to “fix” myself. I have been off anxiety medication for almost 2 yrs with my doctors approval. Every time he starts picking at me, I ask if I need to go back on my meds, become numb again. He always says no. I have been trying to stand up to him with the way he speaks to me and I think that’s why we’re having problems now. He hates it. 🤷🏻♀️ There’s a lot more but I’ll add later. Thanks for reading.
@MontanaGurl Thank you for sharing, Gurl. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now. Sometimes there are multiple reasons that relationships have challenges, and it is rarely the fault of a single person. Hang in there, and I hope you connect with some awesome listeners who can support you as you begin to work through this.
@MidwesternCalmSeeker thank you! Things have gotten a little better and he has calmed down quite a bit but still has crabby moments where he picks at me. So instead of defending myself like I normally would, I have begun to ignore him. I have already told him how I feel about the fact that he’s bullying me and picking at me every chance he gets and he wasn’t a fan of that but at least I told him.
That is a really great strategy! It is not fun for a bully when there is no reaction! You are smart to ignore him! The confidence that you are taking the mature adult path will surely strengthen your confidence and show him you have clear boundaries. I wish you well.
