Silent treatemant
Its a tool used by those who don't value you
@puacee so no one really values me
I think it depends on the situation
@helloCranberry5684
I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes I need time to evaluate/ think on what happened or what was said and get my own thoughts/feelings under control before I can speak on it so I don't "lash out" or respond in a way that is negative or ineffectual to working through the issue. And if it was really upsetting or hurtful that could take some time. But it should be a tool to allow yourself to calm down, reflect, gain insight and find the right words to communicate with. Not as a punishment to hurt or cause agony to someone else.
@decisiveJet3634 but it is in face to face interactions, not over the phone
@helloCranberry5684Bit not everyone uses that silence for those reasons. You have to figure out what their intentions are by asking yourself how often this person does this with you and how serious the issue/reason was for the silence. Like, are you getting the silent treat every time you leave the cereal box on the counter or forget to put your glass in the sink? That's ridiculous and just being hurtful. And maybe you just may want to ask the silent one what they are trying to accomplish with the silent treatment. Their response could give you insight on on their true intentions..
@decisiveJet3634 they act like im not there
I always use Silence as a way of demonstrating Service. I find that within silence, I'm able to be my best kind of friend, best kind of partner, and best kind of Listener. Silence, for me, is always about service when it is taken as a vow. If it's not a vow of silence (and here we never know until we ask) then perhaps something else might be going on. Someone's deeply hurt (usually the silent person) and they're tired of explaining it repeatedly.
@LynnsListeningEar Do you act like the person who just asked you a question isn't there?
Not if it's related to the silence.
Yes, if it's about a random thought that potentially had to do with the reason the vow was taken in the first place.
But this is my personal experience, and definetly not a one size fits all situation.
I speak of it because I recently had to take vows of silence with my best friends - because I was actively serving without necessarily being told what my boundaries were.
For me, Silence is Always About Service.