What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 1:38pm
Before doing it, just stop for a second and read this. Are you reading this? Good, keep following this post and you'll find your answer. Remember that you're valuable and this is just a time in your life where you may feel that you've screwed up to the point of no return - but that's just not true. I suggest you seek professional help immediately by contacting a nearby professional therapist. I was once in a depressed state too and was feeling lonely and suicidal, since I thought that my life was just beyond repair.
originalGrace16
July 8th, 2016 8:28am
If you feel suicidal, it might help to contact some helplines on the internet. No one will know about it accept you :)
EleNergy
June 30th, 2016 3:29am
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. First off, if you truly believe that you are about to engage in this act, please contact a Suicide Prevention Hotline so a professional can help you feel better about where you are and assist you. The USA national suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Suicide hotlines by state: http://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html Suicide hotlines in other countries: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html To assist you in understanding your emotions, perhaps track your moods throughout the day. Include the time of day, mood, and why you think you're feeling that way. Reflection is key to understanding yourself and others. Once you've picked out the reasons as to why you're feeling this way, you can work on problem solving and making life better for yourself and your environment. A lot of suicidal thoughts can stem from depression. The best thing to do is keep on living, keep on moving, and keep on doing your bet to be open and connect with others. Suicide affects not only you, but the entire world around you.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 11:07pm
Think of how amazing your life is, pause all the bad thoughts. Look in the mirror, what do you see? A beautiful self being huh? I know right :) your life is amazing and most beautiful thing! Don't let the problems get to you, there is people who care for you but you don't know it or don't want to see it. Talk to someone, talking to someone is always a good thing. I've been there and I recovered! Like I always say be your own therapy, be happy and try to think of what makes you happy ! If you think that's not working, please talk to a professional! Remember your life is amazing
BipolarBeauty2016
July 15th, 2016 9:32pm
No one tries to kill themselves because they want to die, they just want to stop suffering and feeling the way they do. You need to talk to your doctor about your feelings and thoughts and access support. As a sufferer of bipolar disorder I have been in your position and attempted suicide several times. It probably won't end your life and you're state of mind will be a lot worse afterwards. Please try and look at all the positive things in your life and see the future. I wish you all the best. Jade :)
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 2:09am
You should write down all you bad thoughts and then all the good ones you have in life then throw the bad ones away and read the good because you are important
MarcusFalls
July 28th, 2016 11:46am
Suicide is a common result of feeling desperate, hopelessness, struggling with pain that couldn't be handled anymore. All of those things require a support from another soul. Dont be shy to admit it, dont be shy to seek help.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 6:34am
One option, and one I would recommend based on personal experience, is to talk to a professional. If that's not an option for you for whatever reason, it's also helpful to talk to someone anonymously like here on 7cups or a hotline. For more immediate help that doesn't involve telling someone, go immediately to coping mechanisms you know work for you, like maybe listening to music, taking a walk, doing something creative, ripping up paper, watching a tv show. It's also a good idea to make sure you're not sitting in the dark: turning on a light doesn't hurt. Something else that I do is put myself in the middle of a room of people, if I can. That means the first step to hurting myself becomes leaving the room, which is a deterrent. I also might start a conversation with someone if I feel comfortable doing that - not about how I'm feeling, but about anything, so that the first step to hurting myself is now making a verbal excuse to leave.
Armanta
July 2nd, 2016 12:51pm
If you are feeling this way but do not want to talk to anyone, there are many websites you can look at for advice or you don't even have to talk to people about it directly, but talking to people about anything is good. Venting is good.
softNutella25
July 3rd, 2016 8:08pm
There is no shame in telling someone whom you trust about your feelings. It is very important for your safety and health to tell someone that will not be judgemental and will only have your best interest at heart :)
Flawlessinsanity21
July 8th, 2016 7:48pm
That's a really tough question to answer. Your best bet would be to tell someone. Ask for the help that you need so you can work towards not feeling that way anymore. But suicidal feelings are definitely not something you should keep a secret.
paperCrane15
July 15th, 2016 12:20am
You may just try to speak to someone here, on 7cups. You don't need to tell anyone your personal information here, just try to express your emotions and worries. Talking to someone usually helps even more, than you think
bethestoryofyourlife
August 19th, 2016 4:35pm
I would draw my feelings down and write poems, and also think about everything i have in life even when i feel like there's nothing left i can live for.
SympathyRose
November 17th, 2017 4:29am
There are many things you can do, but first, take a few deep breaths. Then, I suggest using a help line. Certain ones, such as 741-741 are completely anonymous and have helped me in many situations. If you really don't want to talk to anyone at all, then distract yourself. Do little things, like getting a glass of warm milk or folding some laundry. Use small things to keep yourself anchored. When I feel suicidal, I remember that I still haven't finished some movie or book. I use these incomplete objectives to keep myself sane.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 3:30am
I would suggest going to a doctor or a therapist to get the best answers for you. Never keep that to yourself. It's important your important and need to get the best care you deserve.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 5:30pm
First you should know that you are not alone, lots of people feel this way every day and manage to come out the other side feeling happy again it may just take time. What you're feeling is real and it will pass, you are stronger than your feelings. I would advise first to write down exactly how you are feeling as this can help to understand your thoughts and emotions yourself and be really helpful to let it out. Distract yourself from your feelings by doing something that you love. If the feeling won't go away you should really talk to someone, it doesn't have to be someone that you know there are lots of help lines for suicide prevention.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 12:07am
If you start to feel suicidal, then instead of harming yourself, you can draw on yourself in markers, or you can hold an ice cube in your hand, and wait for it to melt (which really calms you down) or you could think about why you're feeling this way, and what has caused it, and maybe then you'll be more willing to talk about it, or you will be able to fix it on your own :)
HopieRemi
July 3rd, 2016 8:54pm
If you are feeling suicidal and it is active, please call 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicide.org. You don't have to worry about being judged there and no one will know it's you. But please don't keep it to yourself.
Miracle
July 6th, 2016 4:01pm
Feeling suicidal but afraid to talk about it is a position which many people who experience suicidal thoughts fall into, so first know that this reaction is not uncommon and there are many reasons for the fear, a common one is being concerned that revealing your thoughts might mean you will be hospitalised against your will, but in many countries this rarely happens as a first step and is more common when you have an intent to act or have additional risk factors (such as severe self harm), if you don't want to tell anyone you might consider looking up strategies to deal with suicidal thoughts online (some people have found a site called getselfhelp.com) helpful or looking at the managing emotions guide here on 7cups. It might also be worth discussing the reasons you feel suicidal with someone even if you don't want to reveal the most distressing thoughts, as human connection and empathy can often help. It is of course always recommended you speak to a professional but I understand that is not an option for everyone, and know that no matter how terrifying these thoughts are you are not alone and until the world speaks of such experiences openly without fear of stigma it is hard to gauge just how common they are and learn how to support each other through such experiences.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 2:15pm
Well. on 7cups we are lucky enough to have an entirely anonymous chat, you don't need to reveal your identity, which can make it easier to talk about it. There are also other crisis chats, such as https://www.imalive.org/ http://www.crisischat.org/ http://www.loveisrespect.org/about/ But if you are not even willing to talk about it to anyone, not even anonymously, I suggest you write your feelings, that you read or go outside take a simple walk. Sometimes it can really do a difference. You can also seek other ways to distract yourself or just try to google your problems away by googling said problems.
UniqueHeart
August 25th, 2016 12:45am
Write it down. Paint. Do anything to express these feelings - to let them out. Because if you keep it bottled in then you'll find yourself feeling incredibly alone and tired.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2017 8:54am
You can easily go to suicide.org and there are tons of resources depending on your country! I know in the US there is a chat service online if you don't have cell service or don't want to talk with someone. Alternatively, put yourself in a cocoon and have a hot beverage.
CourtneyLee1999
August 2nd, 2017 3:39pm
There's a few things, you can call the suicide hotline or text into their text line. You could voluntarily being yourself to a hospital to keep yourself safe, or you could just call a friend or family member and just chat, not necessarily about your thoughts but just to help calm you down. Or if you don't think your a danger to yourself you could try to take a bath or watch a show you like or do something to help your mind relax. You can also look online for the websites willing to help. There are alot. Or lastly you could come on here and we can refer you to some sites and chat lines to help calm you down. Stay safe ❤️
considerateVision16
November 15th, 2017 6:02pm
There are numbers you can call. If you do not wish to call the numbers then you can make yourself preoccupied so you can distract your mind from such thoughts.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2016 3:42pm
If your feeling suicidal and you don't want to tell anyone, one very important thing is introspection. Try to understand why you feel this way. It is cliché to think of the people you would be leaving behind, but it is a very valid reason none the less. Think of those who love you, think of the possibilities in life for you if you could just overcome these suicidal thoughts. You don't hve to talk to people about it if you don't want to, but it might be a great help if you can find a friend, 1 person with whom to share your heart with. If you still feel like you can't or won't talk to people about these thoughs, understand it is you and only you that will make the final decision, no matter who you talk to. And understand that running away might sound like the better or only slution but it will not help you overcome whatever you are facing. Stay Strong! Always!
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 1:49am
Contacting suicide.org is very helpful. You can also find a hobby you like, so when these feelings come, you have something to occupy you from those thoughts.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 10:09am
If you are feeling suicidal and don't want to tell anyone it is always best to have a hotline or a crisis chat, you will remain anonomous and can gain the help you deserve. i know it is hard to talk to people about it but you deserve to stay safe! Hotlines are always best option if not it may be worth trying to approach someone you can trust, like a trusted adult.
KayyRose
July 3rd, 2016 7:22pm
If you're feeling suicidal, you really should speak to someone you trust about it. From experience, I know this will help you. However, if you're not ready to get help from someone else then distract yourself with something you enjoy doing and try to focus on positive memories and opportunities.
DavidPortugal
July 6th, 2016 11:57pm
You should call your country's hotline to get professional support. They always have very well trained persons to deal with this situation.
EveEveland
July 10th, 2016 2:49pm
It's best to tell someone. We all need help standing up again sometimes. If you don't want to tell anyone, you can always chat anonymously on 7 cups. We're here for you!