How do you (or have you) gotten past losing your best friend from childhood?
Last Updated: 01/26/2016 at 8:46pm
Mark Harrison, MSW, LICSW, PIP
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
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Losing you childhood best friend is extremely hard and difficult to get through. After I lost my childhood best friend it was really hard for me and I still think about and miss her to this day. But sometimes you have to remember that people are only in your life for a limited amount of time. Some people aren't meant to be permanent.
I have. And it was extremely difficult for me but I understood that nothing or no one is permanent and we can live life only when we understand that something better is waiting for us.
Its hard to move on from a childhood relationship. Sometimes you see friends who have been friends forever and are lucky to remain that way. You wonder to yourself, "why couldn't I still have that with my old friend"? "Why did we allow ourselves to move on and grow apart"? But, things happen in life and relationships evolve, and some grow apart. People grow apart. Sometimes things happen in life to take you from something good to something even better! Even though you may still feel bad over losing that childhood friend from your life, just know that you will always have and carry the memories that you shared with them and may you look back on some of those memories and remember them with not sadness, but with great big smile.
In terms of losing I will assume you are referring to bereavement rather than losing contact through life circumstances. I do not think you 'get past' it but rather you learn to better manage your emotions surrounding this, often with support from friends and family, sometimes getting involved in events that help remind you of your friend eg.If your childhood friend died from cancer you could get involved in charity events such as doing a sponsored run to raise money for research.You might also consider seeking counselling if the emotions surrounding losing your friend are impacting on your life excessively.It is also worth making time to remind yourself of the meaningful impact your friend had on your life for example creating a memory book (it might help remind you of some really nice memories of your childhood too).
Loved ones come and go, It's hard for almost everyone when you lose someone that was your best-friend specifically when it was a childhood friend. It's very hard but as the days come by you get over it but don't forget to look back at all the fun times you guys had!
Getting past losing a close friend can be extremely challenging, it takes time, and is different for everyone, but it helps to talk about it and remember the happy times. It is also helpful to have some sentiment like a song that reminds you of them and you can feel close to somehow. Let yourself feel sad, its a sad thing to have happened and its important not to deny yourself what you are feeling. Just remember it gets better with time.
Losing a bestfriend is very hard but looking at a more positive side that I still have some friends a lot really helped to move on from the lost.
My best friend as a child was a neighbor kid. As we grew we took different paths, had different interests and so on so it was not a painful experience.
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