Should you give up your dreams to be with someone you love?

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Anonymous - Expert in Relationship Stress
September 22nd, 2016 12:49am
The person who loves you back would not want you give up your dreams for them.
CharmingJamesBond - Expert in Relationship Stress
November 12th, 2016 8:45am
As Albert Einstein said," If you want to live a happy life,tie it to the goal,not to people or objects"...having said that,people may leave you at the certain point in your life,but your dreams and goals won't leave you.They are yours.
dreamOrange99
September 27th, 2016 9:26am
Only if your love for that person is greater than your dreams otherwise you may live to regret doing so
jespinosarenee
September 26th, 2016 8:21pm
I believe that your dreams should never be abandoned. If you love someone, you compromise. But, when it comes to your dreams they should support you and help you achieve those dreams. If you love them, isn't that what you would do for them? They should do the same for you. To be both happy and healthy, you need to take care of YOU, and then the other person. If you don't take care of you, how can you take care of anyone else? You can't. Once you do take care of yourself, everything else will start falling into place. Find happiness, and the rest will follow
Aryore
September 25th, 2016 4:00pm
This is difficult to answer as more context is needed, what separates your love and your dreams for instance. What I can say is, if you really want something you can find a way. Who knows, maybe there is a way for the one you love to share in your dreams.
Robin13
September 20th, 2016 6:25pm
If your dream is to be with someone you love, maybe. But in all relationships, I believe you should put yourself first and what you believe in, and not entirely live for a single person
starryDreamer93
October 4th, 2016 11:10am
I wouldn't give up my dreams to be with someone that I love because at the end of the day they are my dreams that I want to accomplish and that someone could just be leading you on and then your dreams and hopes will be ruined.
Anonymous
December 4th, 2017 6:06pm
Do whatever you want, just don't hold the other person responsible if things don't work out between the two of you. Life is a gamble.
aussieinnyc
October 3rd, 2016 6:13pm
That's a really tough call - but ultimately, you should remain truthful to yourself and your goals.
StrawberryPudding
October 4th, 2016 7:14pm
No,it's your life and no one can take that away from you. Not family,not religion,not race,not skin colour,only you can decide who to love and why and when and how long. You.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2016 9:02am
if you think that he/she worth it,why not?
annoyingdreams92
February 3rd, 2017 3:16am
That depends on what kinda dreams you are referring to. If the person loves you, he/she will be willing to wait for you and support you to fulfil your dream, maybe even accomplish your dreams together with you.
magicallyFriend98
January 3rd, 2017 7:21am
This is a question with no definite answer. This is totally up to you. You have to ask yourself, "Do I really love this person enough to sacrifice my own interest?", "Will this person be willing to sacrifice themselves if they were in my situation?" After answering those questions you will have an answer.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 1:36pm
No, definitely not. It's okay to make sacrifices in a relationship but it shouldn't cost you your happiness, ever.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2018 7:54pm
Definitely not this is your story no one else. This other person is just the second character in your story and you dont want to miss out on opportunities because in your life time you love many people and this time well you might not love him in a couple of years and youll look back and realise you made a mistake by missing out on your dreams for someone who was only temporary. Also if its meant to be you will always find them again, its something everyone deserves to know so they dont lose out on anything. x
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2018 12:22am
I do think you can get your dreans while being with someone you love. Or if not, this is based on you already. Are you career-based or family/romance-based? You should ask yourself what is your major priority. We may let go of one, but if it is really for you then there are many ways to get back at the one you let go. Try to balance them both. Weigh the pros and cons. See what matters to you the most. Consult your therapist, your family, your friends. Talk this out with theblove of your life, maybe their advice will give you an answer.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2019 3:50pm
you had those dreams even before you met that person so that should not stop you from pursuing your dreams. if that person really loves you back he/she should join in your dream and help you in pushing your dream to become a reality. your dream should also build the two of you towards an almost similar goal. you are not sure if that person is actually going to stay through it all so if you quit your dream and they happen to leave then you might actually suffer stress or other related problems due to broken trust. follow your dream first
endearingVoice84
October 10th, 2017 9:21pm
This is a decision that you and only you can make. Consider the pros and cons of giving up your dreams, or giving up that person. You need to decide which one means more to you, and which one is going to effect your life in a better way and make you happier. Also though take into consideration that someone you love, if they truly cared about you, they wouldn't ask you to give up everything else you care about for them. Think to yourself if this person is truly the one for you and if they are worth all of that. Maybe make a compromise also. Do what makes you happy, not what anyone says you should do.