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Why am I so scared of being cheated on?

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Last Updated: 09/11/2022 at 11:10am
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February 8th, 2018 1:27pm
Have you been cheated on or betrayed before? Usually that's the reason people have a high level of fear. Or was a family member betrayed? Don't let that fear stop you from getting into a relationship. Also, when you do get into a relationship don't let this fear get the best of you and become suspicious of every little thing. That will cause the relationship to end because who wants to be constantly watched or accused of cheating. Just let yourself be open to being with someone and trust they are faithful. If you dont' have trust then you will never have a good relationship.
December 11th, 2017 7:11pm
We are often scared of being cheated on due to the fact that we start having thoughts of not being good enough or not being loved. We are afraid that we will never get that person back. Being afraid of being cheated on can leave you afraid of future relationships and the loss of trust and can get in the way of something good happening.
July 31st, 2018 5:40am
Well...being cheated on is hurtful.It also makes you feel like you weren't good enough,felling like you're not good enough for someone is probably what your scared of.
January 9th, 2018 6:51am
Can be your own insecurity problem. Can be his cheating history or flirting personality.
February 22nd, 2022 9:15pm
It seems like either you have experienced situations that make you believe you can not trust those around you or you might suffer from a low self esteem and hence hold onto a belief that you expect people to treat you that way. It seems like a subconscious issue, which is sometimes hard to identify, but one can learn to deal with it and face those fears directly. You are worthy of true, easy love and deserve someone who treats you accordingly. And if someone does not appreciate you, know that you deserve someone who does. My love goes out to you.
January 29th, 2018 3:42am
I know the feeling and it is purely insecurity, make sure your partner knows that you need affirmation and I'm sure they'd be happy to prove their loyalty to you as long as you are not judgemental or accuse them of anything.
September 11th, 2022 11:10am
I have this fear within me, that's opening up, I hardly open up because I don't want anyone to get to know me, my weaknesses, my failures, because I don't want them to use it against me, I tend to be over protective of myself by withdrawing everything that I feel, when I was growing up,I was always betrayed by own friends, people I thought I knew, they used to steal my books,spread false rumors about me,in the end,I concluded noone knew me, they all just pretend, that's why am so scared to have people close to me, because am so scared to being betrayed, am so scared to trust anyone because I don't want to be lied to, people at times think that you are rigid, and at times it hurts because however much I want to get close to someone and get to know about them, the other doesn't want to get so attached, I've worked on almost all my traumas but this is still hard, because I don't know how to go about it.