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Did I do something wrong for us to break up?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 25, 2014
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Maybe yes, maybe no. But it doesn't really matter. If your other half loves you so much, s/he could've done something to keep your relationship working. And also you, you could've done something other than blaming each other.
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Profile: providenceOlive
providenceOlive on Nov 29, 2014
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A lot of people blame themselves for breakups, thinking that it's their fault or it's something they did. However, usually it just means that something wasn't working out. Little things you do don't cause a person to break up with you, that's just a minor detail. Breakups happen for a multitude of reasons, usually stemming from something deeper, doesn't necessarily have to be personal either. Sometimes people feel like they have stepped into a relationship too soon and aren't ready yet.
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Anonymous on Nov 25, 2014
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Well? The best way to find out is to talk to the person openly. However.. A break up does not always mean you or the other did something wrong, it could simply mean that you two might not have compatible personalities.
Profile: stongertoday2014
stongertoday2014 on Nov 26, 2014
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Keep in mind people have their own opinions on life. You may not have made him or her happy on some things but they were with you at one point? They love things about you. Don't think about who did what this does not help anything.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 13, 2018
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Sometimes in a relationship you're not always the problem it's the other person and sometime that person needs space or alone time to figure things out.
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Anonymous on Nov 27, 2014
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No. Relationships require two people at all times. No person is singularly responsible for anything regarding the relationship. If you both wanted to work at it and be together, you would be together. But if you aren't both a team and wanting actively to be together, that's when you break up. You both have to want to be in it and you both have to feel fulfilled (or benefit) from the relationship to stay together.
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Anonymous on Apr 10, 2015
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No. Sometimes people just drift away or have miscommunication. The best thing to do is sit down and talk. If that's not possible just know you are worth love and are beauty and move on.
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Anonymous on Apr 22, 2015
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This is the most asked question in break ups. 9 out of 10 times the answer is a big fat NO!!! You didnt do anything wrong. Stop telling yourself that, it will only make you feel worse. Trust me. It helps when you see yourself as the good person in the relationship rather than the bad one
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 3, 2014
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It is normally both parties who act wrongly causing a relationship to break up so don't feel guilty about it as it may have been both of you. Relationships can also just drift apart being no-ones fault at all, people's lives are very different and your life may not have interacted well with your partner's. Maybe you wanted different things, maybe it just became a habit rather than a want and a need for the relationship. Whatever it was, please don't blame yourself and know that you can be without your partner. You know yourself best and you know you can be without your partner. Stay strong.
Profile: worldtraveller
worldtraveller on Dec 8, 2014
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Don't just blame yourself. Everything is two sided. Everybody makes mistakes but that doesn't mean it was only your fault.
Profile: erinjmuller
erinjmuller on Dec 23, 2014
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It depends on the scenario. If for example you cheated on him then yes, you did do something wrong. If for example you two just mutually broke up then no, it just wasn't meant to be.
Profile: CaileighGrace
CaileighGrace on Dec 31, 2014
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You may have, but you shouldn't beat yourself over it. People make mistakes and no one is perfect. If you and the other person work resolve the conflict, they should be able to forgive and forget. After you apologize and they refuse to understand, it wasn't meant to be.
Profile: ColourfulThorns
ColourfulThorns on Jun 23, 2015
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It does not mean you have done something for both of you to break up, it just simply means that another person is already got bored. I did not mean to say that you are boring..maybe it is their nature to easily get bored of something/someone. All in all, it is not your fault. Maybe you guys are just not meant to be or he/she is not the one for you. Do not blame yourself for everything that has happened.
Profile: angeliquenloves
angeliquenloves on Jul 6, 2015
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Compatibility will not be the same with every person, it is never your fault, neither is it your significant other's fault. No one can control their feelings and their ability to control certain situations. Certain quirks may be too much for one person to handle, but someone else may be looking for that quality.
Profile: SimplyKim
SimplyKim on Jul 28, 2015
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I cannot say "yes" nor "no" because I don't understand the circumstances, behind the break-up. However I can say that everyone goes through break-ups at least 5 times in their lives at minimum. (Sometimes less). Remember that disagreeing is how we learn to find people who we can better associate with. While it may seem you're to blame, remember it's part of life.
Profile: SkiiiWalker6
SkiiiWalker6 on Dec 22, 2015
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Sometimes we hurt people and don't realise, communication is important as it allows for you and the person you're with to openly talk about the problems you guys are having. Good communication means to actively listen, even when you don't agree, and try to understand where they are coming from. The common mistake people make when being told about their wrongdoings (whether you knew or not) is to jump into defence mode. A relationship is not a war zone where someone has to win, where one attacks and the other is always defensive. Patience and willingness to understand goes a long way, a simple "i am sorry, i didn't realise you felt like this" goes a long way. Listen to understand, not to reply. Lots of love x
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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You should ask , but maybe you didnt it was just him/her .He/She didnt see a future for your relationship, so they just gave up , don't "beat"yourself up for it, they lost you.
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Anonymous on Jun 7, 2016
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Probably not. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be and you have to learn to accept that. Somebody will come and you won't even remember your ex, you'll be so happy
Profile: globalHope81
globalHope81 on Jun 5, 2018
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No, as long as you were a great mate, that's all that counts. At least you tried, it was them not you!
Profile: lindaeu
lindaeu on Jul 17, 2018
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Not necessarily, for the break up there are a million of reasons. And for sure it is not only one person mistake
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