When do the memories start to go away?
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Updated: Dec 7, 2020
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2015
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They usually don't go away just like a physical manner, they eventually get pushed back by the other memories and/or specific feelings or even by the limations of mind... the pace of getting pushed back decreases over time thus most of the time they will be somewhere in your mind forever, somehow with a less intensity.
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Resilience221
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Oct 11, 2015
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Memories aren't really ever forgotten, but the feelings associated with them can be forgotten. How you feel about a certain memory dictates its significance. Maybe you won't quite forget every memory, but you will look at them with less importance as time progresses.
FoxInTheBox
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Dec 21, 2015
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When you want them to, when you consciously try to get them off your head, when you're putting in effort to get distracted - eventually, with a bit of patience, they will. :)
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2015
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i guess memories always stay in our mind and heart but u could always forget the person not the memories
ManyFaceMan
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Dec 15, 2015
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memories are apart of us and will always be there. the thing is we need to accept what happened and be thankful for the good memories we shared with others. be happy for the good times and create more with other ppl around us. this will make the pain of memories fade.
adrivn7
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Dec 22, 2015
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When you find closure and come to realize things are what they are in the present and can't change it back to the past anymore
Anonymous
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Jun 14, 2016
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I think when you decide to let go of the past and start focusing on the future or living in the moment , you will get over an individual.
Anonymous
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Feb 22, 2015
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They never truly go away. But instead you just learn to carry on with them like a brick in your pocket. and eventually you don't even feel them with you anymore.
Peaceofmind3
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Feb 22, 2015
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From my experience memories never go away its just a matter of dealing with them. If you come to terms with the fact that these memories were a part of your life and they can't change the present or the future. If you learn to accept these memories were part of your life whether they were good or bad you then can move on and reflect.
Anonymous
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Apr 16, 2015
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To me the memories never go away, instead they are replaced. Repalcede we fonder, greater, and happier memories. The ones I wont ever regret.
Ashley93
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Jun 2, 2015
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Memories start to go away when you let them go. They only stay as long as you hold on to them. Try to look to the future - there's so many good things ahead of you ! :)
imLostinTime
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Jun 29, 2015
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I'm sorry,but memories can't just disappear,What you can do is learn to cope with them,i know it's hard,but it's better to do that then to escape from your past.
BubblyDoll
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Jun 29, 2015
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They will never completely go away, but in time you will forget. Time heals all wounds, and the recovery capacity of humans is amazing!
mema9
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Jul 6, 2015
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History, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.
Memories of past events are not the problem; the problem is our emotional reactions to them.
so the question is "Will These Reactions Ever Go Away?"
It is absolutely possible for the memories to appear as an occasional whisper in your mind without any associated pain or trauma.
Whether or not this will happen for you is not for me to say. What I do know for sure is that every time you recognize and welcome your reactions, you are a little more free of them. If you consistently see them all the way through, they eventually diminish. :)
bubblingLove76
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Jul 21, 2015
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Please do not expect your memories to simply vanish. They will fade, however. One day you will realize, "wow, I haven't thought about that in years!"
lifehappiness527
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Sep 15, 2015
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Embracing them to change the future will make them manageable. Memories are what make us who we are, without them we wouldn't be where we are today.
babyface
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Sep 22, 2015
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It fluctuates wildly from person to person. It can be days, to even years. The most important thing you should remember is that this is you, and you take things at your own pace. Don't force yourself to get over someone when you're not ready, try as hard as possible to distract yourself from the memories - and good luck!
Anonymous
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Sep 22, 2015
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Memories don't go away, but as time passes we have new experiences and knowledge which help us to learn to live with them.
bratgurl14
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Dec 3, 2015
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Memories start to go away when you see him with someone else or you get with someone else
Anonymous
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Dec 8, 2015
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Some memories never go away as much as you want them to. At some point sometimes you just have to learn to live with them and understand what triggers them back so you can try and avoid those things.