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Do you think some people are just inherently cruel, or does everyone always have a chance to change?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 4, 2017
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Change is almost always possible, but the person has to want the change themselves. We can hope that someone will change, but that is something they have to do for themselves.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 22, 2018
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Some people have personality disorders. And among those, some are unwilling and unable to change even with therapy. But most people can change if they take on the commitment to change and be pro active in developing a healthier self and achieve a greater purpose in life. No one can force anyone to change. Real change is from within.
Profile: SamWise70
SamWise70 on May 24, 2015
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This is a very objective question. Most people in my opinion has a chance to change and depending on what they did are usually worthy of a second chance. There are a small portion of people that society calls sociopaths that have no conscience whatsoever. These people are not likely to change.
Profile: Nisee96
Nisee96 on Feb 16, 2015
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No I don't think everybody is just inherently cruel there is always a chance for people to change it all depends on the person.
Profile: littlestolive
littlestolive on Apr 2, 2015
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I believe that all people have the chance to be good! Some are more stubborn in this way, and you can only change your behavior if you truly want to!
Profile: gracefulForever57
gracefulForever57 on May 23, 2015
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you always have a choice and you can change of you tried the harder you crash the faster you will learn ton pick yourself up learn from mistakes let them guide you use them as your drive to strive and do so much better.
Profile: Waterbear
Waterbear on Aug 19, 2015
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Nobody is innately cruel. Even sociopaths (people who are born without the ability to empathize) are usually not cruel on purpose unless they have been abused. A person who is currently using a pattern of cruelty often doesn't want to change, though.
Profile: SaraMichelle
SaraMichelle on Dec 14, 2015
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I feel that both could happen. I also feel that change can make you cruel. For instance, all over you can find many people who used to be really nice and caring but are now cold and (excuse my language) bitchy.
Profile: IllBeHereForever
IllBeHereForever on Dec 15, 2015
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I believe that where you have grown up has a lot to do with the way you act. Our community shapes us to be the people we are. No one is born cruel unless they have a conditions that makes them unaware of how they ate treating others
Profile: unicou22
unicou22 on Jan 26, 2016
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Everybody has a chance to change their actions and feelings. People act based upon their feelings and what they are experiencing. There is ALWAYS a possibility to make a chance, it just depends upon the effort they contribute.
Profile: raingirlpoet
raingirlpoet on Feb 9, 2016
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I think everyone has a chance to change. There was something or someone that made that person cruel. Maybe it was a monster in their own head. Everyone deserves the chance to prove themselves. You may see the good in them. Help them try to see the good in themselves. But in the end, they have to be the ones to decide to change.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 11, 2016
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Psychopathy is a mental disorder, neurologically and psychologically. But sometimes people act out in anger or out of serious oppression and rebellion. Sometimes they see flaws in the world or are witnesses of cruelty themselves and can see no other alternative. Do these people have a chance to change? It depends on why they're cruel, and if they want to change.
Profile: Steelymic
Steelymic on Feb 11, 2016
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I feel everyone deserves the chance to change once their problematic behaviour has highlighted and explained to them. Some people then might take this on, others, might need a bit of time to adjust, and then some others will just repeat their behaviour because they do not see their behaviour as problematic, despite it being pointed out to them. It's the last cluster of people that you might want to consider if you want to hang around and see if they will make any changes this time, or the next. Or you might see the pattern and realise that's that just who they are
Profile: cherryblossom78
cherryblossom78 on Feb 16, 2016
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I think everyone has a chance to change if he/she really wants to. But genetics and environment do influence the person a lot.
Profile: XKiraX
XKiraX on Feb 22, 2016
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I think everyone has a chance to change, nobody is just inherently cruel. The world would be much worse if people were inherently cruel
Profile: iambrandi
iambrandi on Mar 21, 2016
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I think that anyone can change. If he/she wants it bad enough it's definitely possible! Without the will to change the chances of change are very slim.
Profile: miraculousNight81
miraculousNight81 on Apr 4, 2016
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I personally think everyone has a chance to change but they don't realize it. Or they don't wanna change. I used to be a bully and i didn't want to change at first because I was scared that if I'm not a bully I would be bullied. I also thought that even if i tried to change my friends wouldn't like me anymore because I'm not mean. I decided that if they didn't like me anymore than they weren't my real friends after all. I took a chance and they accepted me for me. Everyone has the chance but its the matter of them knowing the chance exists. If someone you know is cruel or mean or isn't in the right mind let them know they can have it better if they just work towards being more considerate.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 26, 2016
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I think everyone has a chance to change provided they want to. I think that comes with time. Anybody is capable of anything regardless of how heinous, or sublime. You just hope they act on wisdom.
Profile: GraceFaithAndSummer
GraceFaithAndSummer on Sep 6, 2016
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Everyone has a chance to change! No matter who you are or where you come from! There may be problems like poverty and hunger, due to the people in this world, but there are also children who wake up every morning, looking cheerfully at the sunshine peeking through their window!
Profile: LeonMcLion
LeonMcLion on Sep 10, 2016
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I don't think cruelty is inherited but rather a character they developed as they grow older. People who are cruel might have a terrible past, Everyone always have a chance to change depending on the person whether they want to change themselves for the better. Every day and every moment in our lives we get this chance to change.
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