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Is it true that people bully because they are insecure?

Profile: EminorGee27
EminorGee27 on Aug 28, 2017
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Sometimes yes, people who bully others are weak too. So they tend to pick up on someone that they find weaker than them because they want to gain some sort of power for all time time they felt powerless about things happening to them. They release self hatred and insecurities to people as form of a coping mechanism to battle their inner insecurities and that is what we called as projection. So remember, if you are being bullied, Its not you being called as that. They are simply releasing their insecurities of themselves to other people.
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Profile: shutteredsilence
shutteredsilence on Nov 3, 2015
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Usually, yes. People bully because they lack the will or ability to form meaningful connections with others. Often they are afraid to be seen as weak or compassionate. The best way to get back at a bully is to ignore them. Their bullying is a cry for attention.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 13, 2015
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People bully because they're miserable. They're angry with themselves and want to take it with us. They don't have a good life so they want to make us feel the same way. It's not fair.
Profile: Katastropheez
Katastropheez on Jun 13, 2016
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yes some people bully because they are insecure , and at other times they bully because you have something they envy you about because they lack it, so the hate builds up enough to bully
Profile: talktome3355
talktome3355 on Apr 4, 2015
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I think this statement holds true as most people bully others as a means of exercising power and control in some aspect of their life, especially if the individual feels they are unable to control other aspects of their life. Bullies are often insecure about getting picked on themselves and they see an opportunity to pick on someone else as a shield they can use to avoid being bullied themselves. Further, they may bully others in order to find a sense of belonging to the social community, to gain a sense of approval from others or to project a powerful image to others. As such, although there are many reasons for why someone may bully others I feel these other reasons do primarily stem from their personal insecurities.
Profile: dkotabarrios
dkotabarrios on Apr 2, 2015
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That could be one reason behind why people may bully. There are numerous reasons as to why one may restart to bullying, it could be insecurities or jealousy or bad familial problems.
Profile: colorfulGrace98
colorfulGrace98 on May 14, 2015
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I was once a bully in school due to family issues. I was worried that if I wasn't strong enough, people around me would look down on me. As a bully in school, I got a sense of trill and also expected others to respect me and not look down on me.
Profile: beautifulParadise07
beautifulParadise07 on May 31, 2015
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The reason why other people make fun or bully of other people is because they are having that knid of insecurity. it means that there is this factor that a certain bully lacks in which he finds it to another people. Then, if he can't have that certain thing or trait, they started to feel inferiority. And they dont want to be inferior for their whole lives. They are being threathened bby not having what they want. That's why they bully other peopl or those people who are having their kind of lack.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 6, 2018
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At times. Or perhaps they are jealous. Envy inspires hatred and the worst of emotions inside us, which leads to creating tyrants in the society.
Profile: NocturnalSecrets
NocturnalSecrets on May 15, 2018
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In my personal experience, yes. People who are uncomfortable with themselves have the tendency to take it out on others so that they can make others feel the way they do. It's not right, or fair, but unfortunately that's just how some people are.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 15, 2015
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Yes, because most bullies are insecure or their having a hard time so they decide to take out their anger on someone else to make themselves feel better.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 3, 2015
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Sometimes. Other times it's because they were bullied. Some people are more insecure then others. And they use bulling to hide those insecurities.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 26, 2015
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Yes, most or all bullies bully because they are insecure and have a dark past, they think that hurting other people will make them feel bette.
Profile: devinacares
devinacares on Oct 4, 2016
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Personally I do think that people bully as a kind of projection of their own insecurities or worries onto other people. An example of this is when I was bullied by a female close to me for being "too socially active" and I do feel this was out of jealousy because she was very secluded and insecure about being left alone. We ended up resolving the issue because we spent a lot of time together and even though she still has some insecurities about being alone, she makes an effort not to project this onto other people.
Profile: GhostInTheAttic
GhostInTheAttic on May 23, 2015
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usually yes. some people bully because that's how they see the world around them behave. others because they need to feel superior. yet others because their hoohaas aren't up to the mark. but in general its almost always because they feel the need to make up for something or the other.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 16, 2015
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Yes, that is very true. It is something that they lack in themselves that they have to take from others.
Profile: PumpkinCat
PumpkinCat on Dec 22, 2015
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Yes it is possible that they bully because they are insecure but sometimes they don't like someone and want to make them feel bad so they can feel "better". There are several reasons why people bully each other.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 11, 2016
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I think so. They bully because they need to prove to themselves that they are "not that bad" or at least better than someone else.
Profile: cloudscanbefriends
cloudscanbefriends on Sep 5, 2016
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More often than not, yes. However, this should not make one feel bad for becoming upset when bullied; abusers should never be victimized.
Profile: jess3456s
jess3456s on Sep 5, 2016
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I think it is true that people bully others because they're insecure, but I also think it's because they're unhappy with themselves and that they think the only way to make themselves feel better is by bringing someone else down.
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