Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Why do they focus on me when other people have the same faulty characteristics?

Profile: GermanZebraCupcake
GermanZebraCupcake on May 18, 2015
...read more
Honestly, some people are hypocritical and love pointing the finger at everybody but themselves. If you interact with these people, just brush off their opinion.
Dealing with bullying?
Take the Free Wellness Quiz
Gain insight & track progress for anxiety & depression
Talk to a Licensed Therapist
Online chat & video therapy at your fingertips
Help keep 7 Cups free

Takes less than a minute. Keeps 7 Cups free for someone else.

A small contribution goes straight to keeping the community running.

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 4, 2015
...read more
1. Sometimes we overthink that lead us to think that the only focus is on us 2. it's a good thing, because when we know what is wrong with us we can change it "no body perfect" 3. raise your self-esteem and confidence so that you won't be bothered by them Nobody can hurt you without your permission. Mahatma Gandhi
Profile: willrr6
willrr6 on Oct 26, 2015
...read more
Sometimes, people just get away with things and other's dont... sadly. Just focus on being the best u!
Profile: whitetigerscream
whitetigerscream on Aug 9, 2016
...read more
Because everyone deserves to be listened to and cared about. Everyone deserves respect and to be helped with there problems
Profile: avocadoallyson
avocadoallyson on Feb 7, 2017
...read more
They focus on you because they probably think they can pick on you. Show them how strong you are and don't let them get to you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 11, 2015
...read more
You're unique. Maybe, it is just in your mind, your characteristic features could include worrying, worrying about what people think of you. This isn't a bad thing, lots of people have this, but it can make you feel like everyone is focusing on you, rather than anyone else.
Profile: IntuitiveDrops
IntuitiveDrops on Sep 6, 2016
...read more
That´s a really really good question. I have asked this myself a hundred times. I believe that people are irrational, even as groups. Which means, a group can function like a narcissistic individual. So not only narcissistic individuals tend to find faults they have themselves in others, also groups tend to cling to an idea of "we are this, you are that". That way, they are able to keep the threat outside of themselves.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 6, 2017
...read more
Bully's like to pick on the week. Show the bully that your 'faulty characteristics' are just badges of honor and wear them loud and proud. Then they wont have anything to bully you about or for.
Profile: Sprinkles128
Sprinkles128 on Jan 30, 2018
...read more
Not knowing who they are (and only able to focus on you) I wonder whether they actually are focusing on other people too but you are only able to notice when they focus on you because, fairly, its about you. OR maybe they actually do have higher expectations for you. Wonder where that comes from, and what you want to do about it. OR, two wrongs don't make a right (but three rights make a left). Meaning, them having the same faulty characteristic does not justify or negate your responsibilities. You can't change them. Just focus on yourself.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 19, 2018
...read more
They focus on you than others because you may have more helpful information and directions they wanted than others do.
Profile: Caldrie
Caldrie on Jun 26, 2018
...read more
They don't focus on you. Or rather, just you. They focus on everybody. People like to judge other people. It isn't just you. And chances are they don't care that much, they just observe and continue doing whatever they were doing. It doesn't matter what they think in the long run.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 18, 2020
...read more
Maybe the others don’t think is that of a faulty characteristic. Maybe the others just don't care about it and project their selves differently than you because they are confident these faults won't change them. Maybe you have identified too much with it that you quickly notice people focusing on this and it triggers you and when it does trigger you then this just promotes the focus and can go on a loop. Maybe this thought in the back of your head does not let you project the way you want to and people sense this, then they tend to focus on your uncomfortable side consciously or unconsciously. If this is the case and you recognize it then fuck what others think. It does not matter if you improve or learn to live with the fault, either way it will dissolve because the best of you rolls over it
Share a Helpful Insight
Sharing helps others and its therapeutic for you.
0/150 Minimum Characters
0/75 Minimum Words