Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?
Anonymous
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Jun 10, 2015
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It's normal to still think about your ex, especially if you still love him/her. Even though you may not be IN love with them, but that love that you both once shared doesn't just disappear because the relationship ended.
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Anonymous
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May 1, 2016
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because you can't let go of him/her. try checking out the breakup post here on 7cups for more advice on how to let go
dancingRiver48
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Mar 31, 2016
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I sleep, wake up, and do everything thinking about my ex. It truly sucks! We both need to forget and move on.
Christina13
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Nov 24, 2015
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As a person who normally dated online a lot, and when they ended I woke up thinking about my ex. It was mostly one situation though. The main reason I woke up thinking about my ex was because of an unresolved issue in our relationship.
oj1711
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Mar 23, 2016
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Because i love her? Haha i go to sleep thinking about her, dream about her, and so on i wake up thinking of her ..
Anonymous
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Apr 28, 2016
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Sometimes it takes time for our minds to cope with change, just like it takes our tongue some time getting used to a teeth that has been pulled out. But sometimes people, like some teeth, are not good for us and slowly we get used to their absence just like we get used to the space between our teeth. And soon, something better comes out for us.
Anonymous
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Jan 26, 2015
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"It's normal to think of your ex whenever you've got free time at least for the first couple of months it's a matter of getting used to something or someone". I've always said that to my friends or people who asked me for advice. But actually I've reached an "abnormal" level. He was my first love after 6 months we broke up we got in touch again after a year. It's my 4th year now and I won't deny it I still think about him every now and then but it's very much different now it's better and I'm opened and comfortable with that. We still talk, actually he still talks as I never start chatting first. This month For the first time in 4 years I forgot his birthday, it felt strange usually I get depressed 4 days before thinking of weather to talk to him on that day or not and then get depressed for a week after his birthday as he never answered me the way I thought. this year was different I forgot his birthday -he didn't forget mine- the FB reminded me I posted him a HBD wish with an apologie for being late which was actually a very late one, he answered even later with "it's okay :)" and that's it. For the first time in years I felt nothing which was actually amazing I didn't get depressed it didn't affect my studying or my exams as it did for the past 4 years. I was happy I was proud of myself I even forgot to tell my friend about what happened. It was strangely wonderful. Time heals everything, it's not being in a new relationship or finding someone who fixes your heart or makes your life better. It's all left to you, be a better person for yourself.
zaix
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Feb 15, 2015
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You probably wake up thinking about your ex because you still have feelings for them. Maybe you should go talk to them
Anonymous
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Apr 29, 2015
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It's often hard to get over an ex. Their lack of presence can leave us feeling alone or wanting back what once was. The human mind after a tend up is however usually often bias. It focuses either on all the only the negatives, or only the positives, and such a big change can often lead to it being your first thoughts in the morning. It does however become a norm, just like having them was. It gets easier, and we must go through the rain, to get to the rainbow.
DrumBhudda
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Apr 1, 2016
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Even a full year after my last break up I found this happening. It's perhaps due to the fact that when we are in the diffuse mode of thought we tend to reach far back in our consciousness wrenching forth old memories and unresolved issues. I learned the best way to solve this was to confront the issues first-hand and seek effective closure from within. The old traumas will always find their way forth back into your life if you do not take the time to deal with them along the way. Remind yourself of why it ended and what you learned rather than remaining attached to old feelings you may have had. All that matters is here and now.
Anonymous
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May 24, 2015
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Breakups are hard and sucky to go through. Love is a very powerful force which is impossible to eliminate all at once. The weak spots will break off first, and slowly but surely it will disappear altogether. The most cliche saying is time can heal all wounds, but it is not wrong. Give yourself time to mourn the loss of a love, it is normal and frankly unavoidable, but you will eventually not wake up thinking of your ex. Best of luck to you lovely human
Anonymous
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Oct 8, 2016
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You may want to think deeper about this and ask yourself some questions such as: What specifically am I thinking about my ex when I wake up? What about that thought strikes me as significant? What about my ex do I remember most? What kind of unresolved issues might I have with my ex that could be resurfacing? What can I do to feel better about any unresolved issues that might exist?
considerateMoon52
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Jan 4, 2016
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its a normal thing u shared a part of ur life with him/her so make piece with ur self , but sometime ur the guilt we feel after unsuccessful relationships makes us monitor ever hard situation and keep saying that i should have done that or why didnt i react like that
Anonymous
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Apr 29, 2016
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I've experienced that. It helps to try & break the cycle.
You can't help waking up every morning with your ex on your mind, but you can change how you react to that. Instead of crying and letting it cloud your mind by sitting here & elaborating on your thoughts...workout, watch tv, call a friend that you enjoy talking to (not about your ex), etc.
The more you let thoughts of your ex occupy your mind, the more you're gonna find yourself waking up to thoughts of him/her.
Mamabear83
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May 6, 2016
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He left an imprint on you. All relationships do, really, both platonic and romantic. And it's the romantic ones that often leave the deepest footprint on our minds and hearts. It might take a long time to wake up thinking about anybody or anything else, but those memories will fade as time goes on. They might always cling to you just a little, but with each passing day they will fade more and more. You're gonna be alright.
Anonymous
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Apr 8, 2016
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It's probably because you have not closed the chapter and have not come to terms with breaking up. Be content with yourself!
Anonymous
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May 4, 2016
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Love can take a while to get over. It is an incredibly strong emotion. Thinking about him/her a few days after break up is definitely normal. You never know, maybe s/he also has you in his/her head.
darquem
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Apr 10, 2016
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Because you likely haven't completely stopped thinking about him/her during the day. Alternatively, you may also miss the comfort of starting your day and knowing there's someone thinking about you. It will pass in time.
Anonymous
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Apr 27, 2016
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because you are still in love with him and its difficult for you to get over him.
Anonymous
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Mar 10, 2015
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This is a totally normal thing, to wake up thinking about your ex. It means your subconscious is still thinking about that person, and you miss them in some way or another. Hang in there, and it will get easier with time! Consider talking to a listener about your ex. It's good to get this stuff off your chest.
