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How do I stop thinking about my family's expectation and pressure for me to do good later on in life?

Profile: LemmeBeYourHome
LemmeBeYourHome on Jan 25, 2016
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Speaking straight forwardly you don't have to stop thinking about the pressure...of course the pressure creates unwanted anxiety... I have had to deal with such kind of expectations pressure myself and yes it is depressing but at the end of the day everybody around you would eventually accept you as you are a success or a failure but what you have to worry about is about what expectations you keep for yourself...it is you who must rule your life and not the society. Everything that makes you happy is what you have to look for and keep on doing it because it's hard to accept yourself as you are...You have to try your best to keep yourself satisfied
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Profile: DaveMcGrath
DaveMcGrath on May 17, 2016
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Find something so engaging that you love so much, that losing yourself in it lets you forget everything else.
Profile: StephanieR
StephanieR on Feb 27, 2015
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Focus on what makes you happy. It's okay not to be perfect. It's your life, and it's important that you live it how you want to.
Profile: warmthoughts28
warmthoughts28 on Mar 2, 2015
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I think that this is a hard expectation to stop thinking about. For those who do, it is a positive aspect to be sensitive of your loved one's expectations; however, strict expectation and pressure can really impact one's life in the present. It helps to make personal boundaries and definitions of what you expect for yourself because only you can determine and make the choice of what occurs later on in life for the better. Always be respectful of your family and at the same time, respect that you can only do what you can do. It may also help to take even a small amount of time out of the day, even if it is just five to ten minutes, not have any worries regarding this issue. Scheduling out time for yourself is a powerful way to cope. Also, believe in yourself to do well later on in life! A positive attitude in this regard helps to change your aspect on the future for the better.
Profile: StrikeFreedom
StrikeFreedom on Apr 14, 2015
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While it is important to respect your family and honor their wishes as much as possible as they just want the best for you, you have to remember that ultimately this is your life and no one else is capable of living it for you. The only person capable of being the best you can be, is you!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 18, 2015
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I have come to terms that my parents will love me no matter what. They may not agree on my choices and actions in the moment, but I know they will support me no matter what. So for now, it has worked for me to do what I want.
Profile: nomtomatoes
nomtomatoes on May 26, 2015
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Remember it's YOUR life. Not their's. If you find something you enjoy and good well in, then show your happiness towards them. Shoot for the goal YOU want.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 10, 2015
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I think one of the best ways to do that is to focus on the successes you are having. The things that you are doing well and look back to see how much you've progressed and grown. Once you see how well you are doing, it may be a lot easier not to feel so pressured because you know you can do it.
Profile: imSorryYouFeelThisWay
imSorryYouFeelThisWay on Aug 25, 2015
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Well, just remember that they love you and at the end of the day they will be there. Also Never forget you are your own person. You live up to your expectations and yours alone. Be proud of who you are.
Profile: courtly25
courtly25 on Sep 8, 2015
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To stop thinking about your family's pressure and expectations, is to remember that it is YOUR life. All your goals, wants, and dreams should all come from your heart and not your family's. The most important person to impress is yourself, and don't let the stress of others take that away from you! Keeping in mind that you are your own person, and creating your OWN story will help you stop thinking about their idea of "perfect".
Profile: Alee
Alee on Jun 6, 2016
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By understanding that it's your life and not theirs life. You are making your own path. Whatever happens you will be able to fight it trough.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Sep 19, 2016
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Your family will always thing the highest of you. Thats because they are family. As for you as a person you will make choices and calls on your own as a person and sometimes or most of the times it will not go according to plan. But don't stress about it just learn and grow from it. After all we are only human.
Profile: majesticCloud84
majesticCloud84 on May 8, 2017
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although our family shapes how we live our lives we should try to focus on our own personal goals and expectations in life. The pressure may never go away but finding ways to cope with it is very useful.
Profile: Riseandshine85
Riseandshine85 on Sep 4, 2018
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Experiment and try to find your path in life as any curious human being would. Pier pressure is normal and is based on common anxieties that one should do good and not drift away. Acknowledge the pressure from your family and treat it as a challenge, knowing that you would do the same if you had offspring. In the end it's about what you do to keep you afloat financially and and what other things bring you joy and fulfillment. Overthinking about this aspect and not acting upon it tends to paralyze and make one think he is not worthy of being responsible for himself or competent to make decisions, in the end, it's about breaking the illusion that this anxiety gives.
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Unfortunately, you cannot. Family expectations are one aspect of life that does not go away. If you feel that your family's expectations are overwhelming and impossible to meet, you may want to try journaling. Writing out what you are feeling and why you feel that way can be very beneficial; if you would like, you can also have a sit down with your family and discuss how them pressuring you makes you feel. This can feel scary at first, but going along with their wishes for the sake of peace only makes you more miserable. You may not change their minds, they may get angry but at the very least you expressed how you were feeling and as much as they may try to punish you; expressing your emotions is not a crime.
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