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How to make your parents stop arguing?

Profile: TheGreyFixer
TheGreyFixer on Jan 15, 2016
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Unfortunately, no child can make their parents stop arguing. What they disagree on, only they can fix. Their problems are not your problems. But if it's getting really bad, maybe try talking to them individually, in a calm setting, and explain how it is making you feel. It may be that once they realise how much of an effect their arguments are having, they will instead seek other solutions, perhaps couples therapy. Don't blame them; they can't help disagreeing. But allow them to see your pain, as it will give them a clearer view of how things lie.
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Profile: faithlove1111
faithlove1111 on Jan 20, 2016
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Get their attention. No, you don't have to hurt yourself or do something awful to get their attention. Walk up to them and tell them firmly that you are disturbed by their arguing. Be assertive not angry when you speak. Tell them to sit down and discuss things like an adult. Then , walk away. It's up to them to solve the issue not you.
Profile: JasmineJane
JasmineJane on Apr 3, 2016
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We can't force our parents to stop arguing immediately. It's frustrating, I know, but things like this take time. Sit your parents down and talk to them about how you feel when they argue. Perhaps organise a family meeting every week where everyone speaks their mind to one and other about how they feel.
Profile: MyriadHashbrown
MyriadHashbrown on Feb 18, 2016
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Your parents have likely been through thick and thin together, and have all sorts of experiences between them. Love is not a perfect, romance movie thing, it is a delicate balance between 2 people, and requires constant communication and nurturing. Arguments are natural, and cannot be entirely avoided, but the most important part of an argument, is apologizing afterwards and talking about the argument calmly to prevent bad feelings. Talk to each of your parents (either separately or together) and listen to their sides of the story, as well as try to get them to see the other side. Make sure they each have steps to try and reduce arguments, and steps to take to keep out of arguments in the first place. They should feel free to talk to you and each other about their feelings, and remember that they are human too, and have stress and anxiety. Hope everything goes well (:
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 16, 2016
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Tell them how you feel when you hear them, and make them understand. Most parents would understand since they want their kids to be happy
Profile: igetcha
igetcha on Jan 13, 2016
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You can't make anyone stop arguing. It's up to them. It sometimes helps to put it in perspective w/ real facts. They're usually making a big deal about little things. I once brought up how misunderstandings happen all the time & it doesn't make anyone a bad person & it helps everyone to just move on.
Profile: Kimberley28
Kimberley28 on May 9, 2016
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It can be pretty tough when your parents or stepparents are fighting. Remember, even people who love each other fight sometimes. And just because they fight doesn't mean they're going to stay mad for long or that they're going to get a divorce. It's natural for people who live together and spend a lot of time with each other to sometimes disagree and lose their tempers. Just think of the last time you and your brother or sister got into a fight. You didn't really mean all those things you said, did you? In the end, you probably made up. The same goes for parents. If you get really upset when your parents fight, you might want to talk to them about your feelings. Sometimes, parents don't realize that their arguing makes kids feel upset. If you tell them how you feel, they'll probably try to stop or at least explain to you why they are disagreeing.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 22, 2016
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It is not up to you to make your parents stop arguing. Please trust me on this issue. You are not to be the diplomat between your parents, because it is up to them to be the adults they officially are. You are not responsible for you parents' happiness, even though you might feel like it. If you feel like you are getting overwhelmed with family stress, you might want to tell someone like a social worker or a councellor at school.
Profile: sweets22
sweets22 on Feb 18, 2016
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tell them how it makes you feel, and how its affecting you and others around them, even including each other.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 8, 2016
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Let them know that their arguments are affecting you, and that their arguments are not a good example on you.
Profile: delightfulana02
delightfulana02 on Feb 5, 2016
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You yourself can interfere. Sometimes, interference can actually lead to positive outcomes. Get in between and show them how sad you feel when they argue. Every matter has a sure possibility of being solved calmly and peacefully. We can make them calm down.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 24, 2016
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You don't. You sit and cry yourself to sleep. Life is endless suffering that cannot be improved. Just give up.
Profile: lyricalsunrise
lyricalsunrise on Feb 25, 2016
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You can't make them do anything, but if you tell them that they're scaring you, they'll probably try to stop or at least keep it away from you
Profile: soulmate100
soulmate100 on Feb 17, 2016
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First of all individually talk with your parent and then talk to them and tell them that when they fight it has a bad impact on your mind as well as soul .. Ask them not to fight for your good sake. And try to be a bridge between them and fill the gap
Profile: disconsolate
disconsolate on Apr 8, 2016
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i've had a lot of people tell me to stay out of my parents' mess. from guidance counselors to relatives. they tell me to let my parents solve their issues on their own. they told me not to worry about it. they told me that their problems are not my own. but i think they were all missing the point. I CAN'T. i think the best thing you can do, based on my experience, is to let them know you're hurting. maybe they're convinced that they've done their part to keep you out of it and they don't see how much you're hurting, too.
Profile: gabbyyyy
gabbyyyy on May 4, 2016
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Wait until they calm down, don't intervene while they are arguing. Talk to them about how it makes you feel when they argue, be sweet to them and help them understand. ❤
Profile: shesays11
shesays11 on Feb 5, 2016
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It's important you understand that the only person you are in control of is yourself, unfortunately we can't control what other people do. But we can control how it affects us. You could possibly tell them how it is affecting you. But understand that if the arguments do not stop, it is not your fault.
Profile: Adam2342
Adam2342 on Feb 6, 2016
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It's not hard to stop arguing with your parents , Yet not easy.. Take your parents as your friends and then it won't be arguing ; More like having a normal conversation. They are your parents after all and you have to have chit chats about your life and decisions every now and then. None of your friends is concerned about you as much as your parents are.
Profile: shvrry
shvrry on Feb 19, 2016
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Best thing to do is stay out of it, or tell them to calm down and try to help them work things out :)
Profile: LondynRose
LondynRose on Jan 24, 2016
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There is not much you can do when your parents are arguing as they are adults. One thing that you can do for yourself though is not think they would be better off without you or that they are arguing due to you. You are their child and they may be arguing and bring your name into it but it is not your fault
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