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My parents don't understand me. What should I do?

Profile: wishfulRainbow68
wishfulRainbow68 on Jan 30, 2016
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How do they not understand you? talk to me about it and tell me everything that you feel about this situation. What have they done to make you feel this way?
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Profile: Speakfromheart
Speakfromheart on Jan 14, 2016
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Talk to temporarily. They were born at a time where there was no smartphone or Netflix which is basically our life. We can't expect them to be just like us.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 17, 2016
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Communicate. What is it they don't understand? Does it seem to be specific area or all quite general
Profile: GoldenEars77
GoldenEars77 on Jan 14, 2016
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No one can understand you better than yourself. Try mindfulness and become aware of your feelings and sensations. After becoming clear you will be able to express them properly.
Profile: RoseS13
RoseS13 on Feb 4, 2016
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Find someone who does. My parents don't understand where I'm quite coming from or the choices I make but I realized if they won't understand I'm sure someone else will. I know I can go to my aunt and uncle. Sometimes people don't understand us but If there are some don't then there will be some that do.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 26, 2016
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Try and explain ? Corroborate with facts ? Accept that they might never truly understand since theysee the same things from a totally different perspective?
Profile: lyricalJoy42
lyricalJoy42 on Jan 27, 2016
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Try start a conversation with "I have to talk to you guys about something. Can you please let me speak my mind? You may not understand it, but try to see where I'm coming from."
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 23, 2016
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You should tell them everything and tell them how you really feel . if they still don't understand you then you should ask someone like your siblings or friend to give you advice or ask them why are they doing it.
Profile: bubblyPainting40
bubblyPainting40 on Jan 14, 2016
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I suggest trying to have an honest conversation where you explain how you feel and try to help them understand you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 14, 2016
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Express what you're going through (writing, drawing) and show them because they probably don't think of it as a big deal.
Profile: grumpymama
grumpymama on Feb 6, 2016
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Parents tend not to understand their children as they get older because the child is becoming more independent and wants to make their own choices while the parent continues to want to help protect them. The best solution to this is to keep an open dialogue. Most parents are not "stalking" you by asking questions about your life, but genuinely interested. Speak to them while you are not feeling a strong emotion, discuss calmly the things that are needed to be discussed.
Profile: delicateEars36
delicateEars36 on Aug 8, 2016
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They probably understand you more than you think, but maybe there are certain aspects that they don't understand. Ask them if you can have a weekly family meeting to discuss your differences, likes and dislikes.
Profile: ListeningEar13
ListeningEar13 on Feb 13, 2016
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You need to open a line of communication. Express yourself in detail. Be receptive to constructive criticism.
Profile: Purpleskys01
Purpleskys01 on Jan 21, 2016
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You don't think your parents understand you? Why do you think that? Maybe you should try to interact with them more maybe go see a movie together or just talk when was the last time you actually talked with your mom
Profile: WindMelody
WindMelody on Jan 22, 2016
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At first, let them know it. Even if sometimes you don't feel like they do, they care and they love you really really much. If you speak calmly and explain how you feel I'm sure they will listen to you and understand.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 27, 2016
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Try talking to a different adult. Maybe a teacher or school counselor? They understand more than you might think. It releases so much stress.
Profile: Kuvira14
Kuvira14 on Jan 27, 2016
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Try and tell them how you feel in any way that you can, a letter, recorded tape, a video, among others
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 22, 2016
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They understand you, they just don't want to show that because of a specific reason, but they are your parents just talk them and it might turn out that they understand
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Jan 27, 2016
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It's good if you can sit them down and talk to them, tell them how you feel and how you would like them to treat and understand you better.
Profile: hopefulWaterfall35
hopefulWaterfall35 on Feb 5, 2016
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It is important to meet in the middle when it comes to parents and their children. You have to be brave and tell them what you need to tell them, family is there for essential support and they need to understand what is going on especially if it is important to the children. You need to face them and tell them what you are thinking and feeling, sometimes it requires a great amount of bravery.
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