I'm in love with a straight friend and I'm a lot younger than her... it's my first time feeling this way as well. I don't know what to do...?
Anonymous
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Jan 30, 2026
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Hey there! Maybe your feelings have changed since you posted this, but I wanted to answer it in case someone else is struggling with this.
First of all, this happens to women who are attracted to other women. It's very common and normal. I've been in your shoes when I was younger, but eventually I got over her. When this started happening, I got very scared, but then I embraced it. I tried to get it out of my system, but deep down, I knew nothing could have happened because she was straight. Anyway, eventually I fell out of love with her.
Now, if you are close friends, it can be tricky because you see her often, so the question is whether you are okay with only being friends. If not, maybe you would need to distance yourself from her for a while, so you don't feed your emotions with constant reminders of why you like her. However, being in love is beautiful, and even these one-sided feelings will teach you a lot. Eventually, you will learn what works for you, and you will meet a person who will be attracted to you equally. Cheers!
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