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I cheated on my boyfriend with his best friend. I still love my boyfriend and don't know what to do. Maybe I'm bored? Or do I truly love him still?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 3, 2020
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When the mind starts to wonder, the body often follows. If you think you may me bored or that you don't still love him, it seems that you have to do some internal searching and determine what your motivations were for cheating. Understanding yourself is the best way to understand your behavior. There are various areas you can also consider when doing this. Think about your relationship with your boyfriend a bit more- the timeline for both recently and in the long run. Then there's also your relationship with the best friend. What about it gave you the opportunity to cheat? This can help conceptualize your own motivations and behavior.
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Profile: travelingwhisper
travelingwhisper on Apr 13, 2020
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You're on the right path for many reasons! For one, you're asking thoughtful questions that could help you figure out what you want right now. Also, the fact that you're even sharing this as a means to seek guidance is quite indicative of your motivation to help yourself as well. Here are some questions that could help nudge you further along your journey: How do you feel about your relationship with your partner? (Try to come up with words that more precisely your sentiment other than good/bad.) How were you feeling in the relationship right before you decided to start talking to his best friend? Right before you slept with the best friend? Lastly, how do you feel about the relationship now? Hopefully this helps!
Profile: peacefulCloud229
peacefulCloud229 on Apr 5, 2022
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Maybe it is good to reflect on it, what it means to love someone, talking to your boyfriend would be a great option too. Honesty is a fantastic policy and may of course hurt, but in the end I am sure he would rather hear it from you than a stranger or his best friend. Being bored is not usually a reason people cheat, rather usually it stems from not feeling like you have received the kind of attention you feel you need and seek it elsewhere or some other kind of gap in the relationship, no it is not an excuse but rather maybe a deeper insight as to what might have led you to do so.
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