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How do I cope with people pointing and staring at my Self Harm scars?

Profile: MissBiscuits18
MissBiscuits18 on Nov 30, 2015
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Don't feel ashamed of yourself. What you have done was fight to cope with your pain. People are judgmental and curious, so all you have to do if you catch someone staring is look them in the eye and smile.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 23, 2015
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I hope you don't harm yourself anymore, and I myself have several large scars that show pretty much all the time. It's totally up to you. I usually just don't show any bother to it. People will always look, although a lot of people don't even notice. If you feel like, you can just say they are your battle scars!
Profile: PeppermintHeart
PeppermintHeart on May 5, 2015
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I know this seems difficult but the best way to deal with such a thing is to ignore it. Many people (luckily) have never experiences the kind of negative emotion that leads you to hurt yourself in such a way and might consider it strange. Sadly some people do not have the decency to keep their thoughts to themselves and will openly stare. DO NOT FEEL ASHAMED OF YOUR SCARS. They are proof that you survived a very difficult time and this is something you can be incredibly proud of. If you feel confident enough stare them down, show them what it feels like to feel observed and exposed, so they might understand that this is not comfortable and not a nice thing to do. Please take care. x
Profile: Nahsha
Nahsha on Apr 12, 2016
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If people do that, they are rude and ignorant for not knowing how it could make you feel.I'd brush them off, and avoid possible negative comments.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 10, 2015
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Tell them what the reason for it is, it usually shuts people up. Tell them what causes it. Do not worry.
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Anonymous on Sep 14, 2015
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I was just honest or didn't care. Those people are idiots you don't need to care about them. The scars are you own and there is no need for anyone else to know anything and if they don't get that, they're too stupid for your attention
Profile: adorableSun37
adorableSun37 on Nov 10, 2015
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You have many options. You can tell them the truth, you can cover up the scars and say nothing, or you can ignore them and not worry about what they think. How do you feel about those?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 28, 2015
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Ignore them, show thet you don't care about what they think and maybe they will stop to stare. Anyways, you don't need to harm, honey!
Profile: iammyown
iammyown on Sep 21, 2015
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You could ask them to stop, or just be calm and walk away from them. Sometimes covering up in the summer can be tricky, but thin scarves wrapped prettily can be seen as a decoration.
Profile: Emiliesks16
Emiliesks16 on Nov 3, 2015
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Try to ignore them
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 30, 2015
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Try and avoid them .They will sure be making fun of you and this will lead you to more self-harm.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 2, 2015
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You can remove yourself from the situation if you don't like their staring. If they ask about it, do what feels comfortable. If you don't feel comfortable talking about it, then say that you'd rather not talk about it. If you want to be honest, then you can say that you were going through a rough time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 25, 2016
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Ignore them. You shouldn't be annoyed, embarrased, PR ashamed, because your scars are a part of who you are. If people don't understand that, they are rude and not worth your attention. Good luck, hope this helped.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 1, 2016
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Keep your chin up. You are worth so much more than your scars and the people that decide that the scars are the most important thing about you are wrong. You should not feel like you have to justify yourself to perfect strangers who haven't the decency to keep their questions to themselves. Don't waste your time worrying about what you think they are thinking. In the great scheme of things, what one stranger on a bus thinks of you will not affect your life unless you allow it to. It will be hard to move past it at first, there is no way around that. But you fought with your worst demons and you survived. You can make it through a few insensitive people who think they are entitled to your story.
Profile: HelloChell0
HelloChell0 on Mar 21, 2016
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Take no notice, it's far from anything that you should be embarrassed about so don't listen to the opinions of others.
Profile: gracefulHeart44
gracefulHeart44 on Mar 29, 2016
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Scars tell a story, obviously not a happy one but people can be very judgemental. I think that you are strong because you made it past that. If it bothers you too much, there is specific makeup for scars that will cover them or you can use Mederma or Vitamin E oil to help lighten and soften the scars so they don't appear as vivid.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 12, 2016
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just try to ignore them if they say something be like oh those I don't remember that being there! just don't think about it
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Anonymous on May 24, 2016
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There a two types of reacting: In the one hand you can directly tell them to stop it, when you have the braveness. I dont think that the people would expect that. In the other hand you could ignore it. Believe me: During the time you don´t notice the glances anymore and you´re not thinking about your scars and your environment as often as earlier :)
Profile: helpfulunicat
helpfulunicat on May 25, 2016
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sometimes ignoring it is easier said than done, but even when you cant, realize that it isn't you who is at fault- its them, because they don't understand. those are your battle scars, they show you are a survivor, and you have every right to be as confident about them as you want! someone who had been in a car accident wouldn't be expected to hide disfigurement- neither should you. but at the end of the day, you are you. do what makes you comfortable
Profile: Briannacheer
Briannacheer on May 28, 2016
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You could cope with it a number of possible ways. You could either be proud of them and don't care what other people think - you could be happy that they are looking and staring because your scars show that you over came the battles of self harm. Or you could be embarrassed and hide them.
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