My family wants me to pursue a career I'm not interested in, how do I tell them no?
KatieBug
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Oct 29, 2014
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Kindly, and maturely let them know that that career isnt for you, then go on by describing the career you want. And if you dont know yet, tell them youre intrests, if you want to travel and absorb culture, or just have fun right now, thats okay!
Struggling with work stress?
abigaail
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Sep 14, 2014
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Be honest with them, its your life, they can't force you do have a career you do not like. Sit them down, and tell them straight.
Bexicle
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Nov 16, 2014
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I think that the best way to do this is to find a situation in which you can have an open and honest discourse. Put some time aside to talk about it and have some coffee/tea at hand. Maybe it would help to bring some alternatives to the table to show that you have done your research and spent time thinking about what it right for you. I imagine that they have your best interests at heart and will be happy to hear your views. I wish you well.
Anonymous
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Sep 26, 2014
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Simply "no" will affect negatively. Go through the career You love, Prove You can do it, Make Success, That will be a nice "no" to say.
Ramka
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Oct 7, 2014
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Tell them that while you understand and respect their needs, your profession must appeal to you personally. Otherwise you would not look forward to your work on any day of your life. Tell them that you are really excited about ____ idea and ____ knowledge and your dream is to pursue ____. In this profession you will be able to generate ideas and create and be fulfilled in your future. Isn't that their goal too--to see you happy and fulfilled and creative?
Anonymous
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Oct 29, 2014
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Tell them you don't have the same interests but you are thankful that they are looking out for you and your life.
Anonymous
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Jan 8, 2015
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It is best to sit them down and explain to them why the career would not be suiting to you. It will also help to explain to them why you want to do the career that you want to choice instead. My mother pushed for me to into the medical field and I wanted to go into the education field. Yes, I agree with her the money would be better but after I explained that I wanted into a job that I loved not one that I dread the rest of my life, she better undestood what was best for her at my age may not be best for me.
Anonymous
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May 27, 2015
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Say them no. Im sure they wud understand. As long as wht u choose for ur career will be success and get high salary
mooninsky9
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Sep 28, 2015
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When trying to convince someone of something they don't believe in, the first step is to gather evidence. Show your parents firstly, how CAPABLE you are of doing whatever you want to do. Don't say no to them without having any reason to back you up.
allnaturalUnicorns70
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Nov 13, 2017
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Personally I never argued with my parents when they wanted me to pursue schooling that I didn't want. Instead I told them something like "not now" and pursued what I wanted. Now I make a nice salary and mentioned to dad last night... and he was floored. #Iwon. Best of luck to you!
Anushka1
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Nov 15, 2014
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It's always a good idea to explain them how pursuing a career you're not interested in will affect your health and life. You could also try to explain how much something you like means to you and how you will be happier doing that. It's always a good idea to try to explain and discuss instead of saying "no".
Anonymous
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Nov 4, 2015
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Saying "No" to parents is indeed a difficult job. As they think its best career choice for your better future and they think you can’t take right decisions. But if you are not interested to pursue a career in what they want, then you need to convince them that. After all it’s your life.
First take your own time to decide what you really want to do. Sometimes we get confuse with multiple choices of career options or sometimes we don’t understand what we exactly want to do. In this situation you can take help of career counselor.
Once you know what you want to pursue as a career, then it’s easier to explain your parents. Don’t be aggressive, as it will worsen the situation. Talk to them politely and with confidence. And explain them that how you will be happy and satisfied in with your own choice of career and get success in that with hard work. All the best.
friendlySmiles99
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May 10, 2016
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Every parent wants their child to do good in life. They want their child to be successful and honored. They want their child to do something they dreamt of once (or for other purposes). As the time passes they become insistant. They tell you to choose subjects according to that career even though you don't want to. My parents wanted me to become Doctor...so I took biology but as the time passed I realized I don't want to be a doctor. So I told them. One day we were in living room having family time when I dropped the bomb. My mom was angry and sad but I told her that it was frustrating me studying something I have no interest in. Its my life and I want to choose my own future career. They were angry at me for some days but eventually calmed down because at the end of the day...we are their children. The trick is to tell them politely and honestly. To open up your problems about something you don't want to do. They will understand.
OmgLeandra
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Jul 4, 2016
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Respectfully tell them that it is your life and you do not want to follow the path theyre leading for you. Tell them that you have your own dreams and goals that you wish to acomplish in life and that you need their support.
AgusD96
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Oct 25, 2014
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Depends on your family. But it is always a good idea to show maturity and decision, and never speak violently. Try to explain it clearly to have better results
Anonymous
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Nov 9, 2014
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I'll assume that your family is orthodox which is why they aren't letting you pursue another career. You can tell them in a way they understand. You could take help of any of your family member or family friend whom your family trusts and who also supports your decisions. Or you could tell them by giving a few famous examples.
dotty
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Dec 25, 2014
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you can ask a teacher or someone your family respects - a priest, an older or more educated relative - to help you conduct some research on your prospective career. then you bring solid arguments why that would be good for you and why you think it suits you: "it'll come easier for me, i'll get better marks, i can prove you i'm a responsible person now, i can find a job sooner, i'll put more energy in it, i'll be happier!"
Anonymous
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May 30, 2015
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Calmly try to explain to them that's something you're not particularly interested in as a career. Perhaps explain your reasons why.
KathyTheHealer
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Jun 4, 2015
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Im sorry that you don't have an understanding family.
It's illogical for them to want you pursue the career you are not interested in.
But just as much as they want to change your thought, you also want to change their mind as well.
It't impossible to change anyone's mind, including your family in this case.
So there will be nothing can be told for them to accept your decision.
You don't need to fight - talk with them, because it won't work.
Just go do what you want.
When time passes by, they will give up .
They are your family, they won't kill you.
LetsTalkAboutThis
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Aug 11, 2015
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If i were in your shoes, i would talk with my parents and tell them what i am capable of. I would tell them what i am interested in. Kindly and calmly. They would listen i guess...