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Foxycleo1986
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On a break looking for hope
Relationship Stress / by Foxycleo1986
Last post
 December 13th, 2022
...See more I have posted this before but I’m asking in hope that’s I can provide more information as I’ve had time to process more and what’s happened in the last few weeks and get some different opinions. My partner when I met him was in separation from his wife. He is from America and moved to the UK where we met. We have been living together and have also been planning on moving to the US together in the New Yesr. Then around a month ago his wife reached out and said she wasn’t enjoying dating and she wants to see if there is anything still there between them. My partner was in shock and agreed for her to come out to the Uk (she arrives this Friday and leaves the following Sunday) He feels like he has to see if there’s anything still there, and also if we have any chance of a future he couldn’t do it with a cloud of what ifs if he had said no. Now I do kind of understand this to some extent but it’s hard. So, we are currently on a break, I remained in the apartment for 2.5 weeks, and since have been splitting my time between my parents and the apartment we lived in. But now I am just at my parents until she has been and gone. We have still been hanging out regularly and having great times. Since the get go, he’s been really apologetic saying he doesn’t want to loose me, that he feels awful for putting me through this and many other similar things. He has obviously been in contact with the wife but has been progressively having less phone calls. He has been coming off some of them really disheartened and upset by them. He’s complaining about her responses via message. And more recently in the last 10 days has been saying how he can’t really see if working between them. He actually said he thinks it may end up with the divorce being started and has mentioned he’d pay to change her flight back if needed. He says he can’t promise but he doesn’t think it’s over between us. And they have not really been speaking a whole lot recently. Both of us have agreed it definitely does not feel like we should be breaking up etc. he’s even said to me that if he knew what he knows now, at the time she originally reached out, he would not have made this decision. He feels like because she’s his wife still and she asked for this, he owes it to her to go through with it. I agreed to him that I’d give him until she goes home to hold on hope for us, because there’s a little part of me that understands his reasoning no matter how hard it is. And I know that this is a big risk because there may end up being something there between them, but it just doesn’t feel like that right now. He still talks to me about future plans a little bit, and includes me in some of them. And we’ve both said neither of us have loved someone like this before. I’m just not sure if there’s hope for us, and not sure what to do. I’ve held on 4 weeks I can hold on another 12 days right. I guess I wonder what anyone else would do and if it sounds like there’s hope for us.
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How can I win him back?
Relationship Stress / by Foxycleo1986
Last post
 November 18th, 2022
...See more My partner was separated from his wife when we met. He had just flew over to the UK from America and moved here. This was over a year ago. We fell very quickly and everything is/was great until last week. his wife reached out via text and then called a few days later. She told him she wants to see if there’s anything still there between them before the divorce. this obviously stirred up a lot of emotion in my partner. Neither of them got much closure, he moved to the uk just weeks after breaking up. So I feel like this may be their chance at that. however because it’s not fair to keep me while he figures this out he has broke up with me and asked me to move out. They have agreed for her to fly to the Uk for the first week of December to figure this out. he has insinuated that he would like me to wait for him should it not work out. we have had some really nice days throughout the pain, we have gone for hikes and dinners and have just been dealing with this in the best way we can. So I’m just really confused and struggling. I sent him a really long message earlier while he was at work which I realised it wasn’t fair as he’s at work. But it was too late he’d already seen some of it and is not happy - understandably. I managed to delete it before he read all of it and said I’ll show him later. I move out on Saturday and go to my parents for a little bit until I have an idea of what to do next. but I guess I’m holding on to hope that he realises he doesn’t want to try again with her and that we have a future together.
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Separated not divorced
Relationship Stress / by Foxycleo1986
Last post
 December 13th, 2022
...See more Hello, I’m really just looking for any form of advice. My partner is from America and lives in the uk now where I live and am from. We met October last year just after he moved. He was recently separated from his wife and they had planned to get divorced. Neither of us really looking for a relationship but we fell deeply. Our connection is definitely something special. My boyfriend and I had started makig plans for our future, we live together we’re going to be moving to America in the new year. Last weekend his wife reached out which I suspected was weird. After a few days she reached out again and told him she wants to try again. He said he doesn’t want to loose me but after all the emotions it stirred up in him, he has to see if anything’s there with them both still. He’s broke up with me and asked me to move out and she is flying here for a week at the beginning of December. They both just want to make sure they’re doing the right thing I guess. this all took place a week ago, my now ex (I guess) and I have some of the best days though, we’ve been out on hikes together and dinners and just had fun through all the pain. he keeps saying how much he loves me and agrees we have something good, that he doesn’t want to loose me. I see the pain in his face and know this is hard for him to. he said he really doesn’t know what’s going to happen but he just has to do this
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