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FrostFeather
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My coworkers are weirdly unrelatable
Work & Career / by FrostFeather
Last post
 December 3rd, 2025
...See more I have absolutely nothing in common with my coworkers and I don’t know what to do about it. I try my best to engage and relate to them, but they seem to find me juvenile based on my main interests (which I have done nothing more than mention to them) and don’t really try to engage or relate to me much.  We are all the same age, btw. Generally, my hobbies and free time revolve around video games and art.  Because of this, I don’t read much or watch many movies/tv because video games are really long choose-your-own-adventure movies or I write my own stories.  I am also asexual, so I don’t have any significant others. Unfortunately, my coworkers interests revolve around music, books, tv shows, movies, tattoos, or romantic relationships and NOTHING ELSE.  I’ve tried to engage with them especially about music and tattoos, but it turns out I can’t relate with them at all on those because I don’t like attending concerts and I don’t have any tattoos, which seems to invalidate me for some reason.  I have tried relating to them about tv and movies too, but I am not up-to-date on the hottest new films and shows because I don’t watch them. Most conversations are about drama from their romantic relationships, which is something I can’t relate to on any level and they will talk about this drama in anxious circles for 12-hours straight!  It’s torture. Considering my coworkers find me juvenile about my interests and roll their eyes at me when ever it’s mentioned, and the fact I also find them juvenile for talking about dating drama for hours straight like it’s high school (but I do not roll my eyes at them for it), I can only conclude my coworkers are aliens from space that learned all human interaction from studying 20th-century human media and slept through their human empathy lessons.  Talking to them is like talking to a brick wall sometimes.  I’m not terribly concerned about our relationship, I just find them dreadfully boring most of the time and would like to find something interesting to talk about. The only thing we all have in common is pretty severe ADHD, which I think plays a major part in this lol.
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How to Find New Friends both Online & IRL
Friendship Support / by FrostFeather
Last post
 August 6th, 2025
...See more I’ve been having trouble with loneliness lately.  When I’m totally alone, I don’t feel alone.  I don’t have any friends due to social anxiety; I’m absolutely terrified of rejection.  My main social interaction is with my coworkers, but I have approximately 0 things in common with them, and it makes me feel very alone.  I’ve tried showing interest in their interests, but the 0 reciprocation I get in return for my interests makes it an extremely depressing experience that’s really ruining my quality of life. Obviously, my coworkers aren’t worth the trouble if they show complete disinterest in me, but how do I find other people with like interests?  Because of my social anxiety, I avoid social media because it’s basically concentrated nightmare-fuel for me.  I tried a creative writing/roleplaying server on ***, but I completely drowned in social anxiety before I could get off the ground there (there were also some really weird rules there that I couldn’t get past anyway). I like artsy/nerdy stuff in general, but I especially like rpg and platforming video games, model building, and original characters/story-building.  I’m not unique in my interests, and these subjects tend to have large communities, but how on earth do I find them?
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It is Better to Never Have Loved at All, Than to Have Loved and Lost
Friendship Support / by FrostFeather
Last post
 April 14th, 2025
...See more I joined a gaming forum a several months ago because a friend reached out to me.  I don't speak to this friend often (childhood friends but now adults situation), but I was thrilled because I had been feeling pretty lonely lately.  I am extremely introverted and generally like being alone, but it would be very nice to occasionally interact with someone on more than just a superficial level. It started out great at first.  I got to play video games online with a small group of people once a week, every week.  This was perfect, I was really happy.  A casual game night once a week, for even just an hour or two, was the perfect amount of socialization for me.  I got to hang out with my friend and met some new people I thought I could get along with. This only went on for about a month before everyone got bored or something and stopped wanting to do game night.  I was really disappointed by this, but I guess I can't expect such commitments from other people.  Ever since then, I have only been able to participate in one game night because they were too busy playing the latest game together that I wasn't interested in.  I suppose it's fair enough. Then my friend showed me a new game.  They were excited about this game and really hyped me up for it.  The new game looked really interesting, and I wanted to play with my friend 'n' co again.  So I bought the game and we agreed to a game night.  In the week leading up to the game night, I played the game on my own, and it was really fun, which made me more excited for game night.  But then came game night... and everyone bailed on me.  No one wanted to play, not even my friend.  I got excuses like "I'm sick" etc, but I could see that they were playing other games together.  They stream it, so I can clearly see what they're doing. I was absolutely devastated by this.  I don't care if they play other games together, but they clearly don't care much for playing with me.  I don't know why my friend even invited me to this group if I was just going to be left out.  I know they're not being intentionally malicious, but they are extremely self-absorbed and inconsiderate of anyone else outside their tightly-knit group.  I'm heartbroken and feel even lonelier than before...  This has made me feel so depressed and sad.
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Absurd Stress from Online Ordering
Anxiety Support / by FrostFeather
Last post
 April 18th, 2025
...See more Hello, I am attending a friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid in May.  The bride gave us a website to order our dresses from, and so I ordered a dress from it.  In January.  Since then I have received 3 damaged dresses over the course of 3 months.  I just can’t seem to get an undamaged dress.  I still don’t have a dress and something that was supposed to be easy and simple has turned into a nightmare.  I am now stressed out of my mind.  I gave up and ordered a different dress from a different website, but the bride is concerned the color won’t match… It’s not fair.  Everyone else got their dresses months ago, and I started ordering a month before they did but still don’t have a dress.  I don’t want to cause the bride stress and dump my baggage on her, but I’m stressed out way beyond my limit.  I don’t know what to do and feel trapped.
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College is a Bureaucratic Nightmare
Student Support / by FrostFeather
Last post
 March 29th, 2023
...See more I... don't know what to do. This isn't the first (or even the third) time I've been denied a degree due to red tape, but this is the most... stupid. Background: I've taken a higher-level course at a college without taking it's prerequisite course due to originally being a transient student (I fulfilled previous college's requirements for prerequisite course already without having to take the class). I'll call this course Intro to English. I'm currently trying to get an associates degree at current college, and the only thing standing between me and a degree is the Intro to English I course. Just this class, and nothing else. I have already taken the Intro to English II course at this exact same college (and passed the class with an A). Since Intro to English I course is the prerequisite for the Intro to English II course and the classes are similar, you'd think that taking Intro to English I would be a moot point, right? WRONG. My current college says it's requirement that I don't have, therefore I do not fill all the requirements for the degree, therefore no degree. They won't waive the course! I've tried dredging up AP credits to fulfill it, but they don't qualify! I have nothing! I've been struggling to get a degree for over a decade. I'm so ravaged by burn-out that I can't bear taking one more class or even the placement test. I just can't fight the red tape anymore... Why won't they just give this to me...?
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Why do I have to do everything?
Relationship Stress / by FrostFeather
Last post
 November 29th, 2022
...See more I'm really frustrated. For my entire life, I've been dragging everyone around, sometimes practically by the neck, to do anything; get-togethers, projects, family gatherings, work functions, book club, R&R, etc. For the past few years, I stopped reaching out to friends and family to focus on my own life. I still talk to them and visit on a regular basis, but I don't go out of my way to do these things for them anymore. Unsurprisingly, no one has lifted a finger to even contact me for the past few years. I don't understand why I have to initiate everything. I've asked them to please call me or something once in a while, but it never happens. I've dragged a lot of my friends through hard times in their lives to success. I helped them at heavy cost to myself, but none of them have ever returned the favor, despite knowing I struggle a lot in my own life. Now, I'm exhausted and depressed, my friends and family know it, and still I am ignored. It's like they forget I exist until I remind them that I do.
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I never meet anyone's expectations, not even my own
ADHD Support / by FrostFeather
Last post
 September 26th, 2022
...See more I recently quit my job and dropped out of college. After over a decade of struggling to get a degree, I have no interest in ever returning to college. I'm extremely burnt-out and I am now aware that I was getting bullied at work. I basically do not enjoy life at all anymore, so I decided to stop torturing myself. I don't have a clear plan of what job I want to settle on for the rest of my life, but I have an idea. It's better than staying in school, for me anyway. It's hard enough as it is already, but now my parents are piling it on. I knew they would be angry, but I hoped they wouldn't retaliate against me. They're already threatening to throw me out. They keep insisting that I "don't know the ramifications of what I've done", which I find insulting. I told them I knew and it was a difficult decision, but I had to or I would've had a complete breakdown. I can't destroy myself as a person just for a degree. They say they had everything so much harder, how no one ever helped them succeed in life, and that I should be treated the same way. It's not fair. I have issues; I can't function on the level they can, but that doesn't matter in the real world. My parents have this thing where they have this preconceived notion of who I am, but if I don't act consistent with that, then I am wrong about whatever, be it positive or negative. It's really suffocating. They keep saying I won't have enough money to support myself, despite the career they pre-approved to have notoriously bad pay. I think the most important thing for me is finding an actual job, not a degree, that I can tolerate. They just refuse to understand, and I'm absolutely helpless.
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