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GnomedBinary
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PathStep 100 Compassion hearts6,081 Forum posts73 Forum upvotes170 Current upvotes170 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2026 Member sinceJanuary 12, 2018
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Active Hours: Whenever I'm online.
Pronouns: They/Them
Region: 🇨🇦

Credit to @LoveHashira for my lovely PFP. ^-^

I'm generally a laid-back person, I stopped caring what people thought of me a long time ago - God's opinion is the only one that matters to me.

ADHD is a thing I have so sometimes I struggle with expressing or articulating my thoughts, so please be patient with me.

Ignorance is not an excuse to be a bigot, be one to me and you'll be finding someone else to talk to.

Unofficial Titles:

  • Virtual Parent to "Jefferson" 😺 
  • Random Encounter ❗
  • Resident Insomniac 😴 
  • Share Circle Enthusiast 🕳️














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Been needing help...
Personality Disorders Support / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 September 16th
...See more Idk what topic this would belong in - but recently I've been struggling with supporting my alter "H" who happens to be a little. I don't have much experience with personality disorders and that lack of knowledge has been making it harder to cope. I don't have any outside support beyond my social worker, and recently H has been wanting to interact with other littles but I don't know how or where she can do that safely. I've been feeling overwhelmed and I just need an out but don't know where to look. Any help would be great.
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Cozy Games
Icebreakers and Games / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 July 27th
...See more So if you're a gamer like me, you're likely aware of the "Cozy" genre of games. Lately cozy games have felt same-y so I wanna share my criteria for a "perfect" cozy game. To share my criteria, I'll break it up into categories: "Must Have" are features that would be essential, "Would be Nice" are features that aren't necessarily essential but would be good additions, "Hard Pass" are features that I wouldn't consider cozy or relaxing to interact with. Must Have ------------------------- * Gameplay should be focused on casual exploration and the environment. * Art style must feel whimsical and simple. * Friendly NPCs to interact with. * No survival elements (ie hunger, health etc) * Game is set in an open world with little to no loading screens. Nice to Have ------------------------- * Base building and decoration with free placement. * Photo Mode (perfect for taking screenshots) * Day/Night cycle * Pets (that just follow you around, not necessarily needing care) * Multiplayer Hard Pass ------------------------- * Farming (there's too many animal crossing, rune factory or stardew valley inspired games already) * Progression/Skill locked activities or areas (I wanna explore without worrying about levels or skills) * Intrusive UI * Forced Tutorial (I want the option to figure stuff out on my own) I know everyone has their own idea of what a cozy game should be, this is my take - feel free to disagree with it.
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Gnome's Kitchen
Around the World / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 July 7th
...See more So some of you may know I am vegetarian, and recently I've been wanting some ideas for new meal/recipes. I hereby invite any vegetarians/vegans across the globe to share their favourite vegetarian dish from their home country! I'm bad at math, so please keep any measurements for recipes in metric units!
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Sunday Morning UNO
Icebreakers and Games / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 August 11th
...See more Hey you, yeah you! Are you on the adult side of cups and want something fun to do Sunday mornings? Every Sunday around 9:00 AM to 11:00 AM EDT - @CommunityModAnne hosts UNO games in the Member Community Room! If you want to participate, watch for the banner that appears letting peeps know that we've started setting up tables. How to Join Sessions * Upon being assigned a "table", wait for your table leader to create a room. * When ready, your table leader will post this link in chat: https://www.solitaireparadise.com/games_list/uno-online.html * Upon clicking the link, select the multiplayer option and look for your leader's room by selecting "Find a Room". * Rounds will start immediately once all table members are present. Creating Tables Follow previous steps above but select "Create Room" instead of "Find a Room". IMPORTANT: Make sure your room is password protected with the selected password being "7cups" so random players don't join by mistake. Make sure your table members know the password.
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Genie
Icebreakers and Games / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 21st
...See more You get 3 wishes, what are they?
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A Little AMA
Trauma Support / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 29th
...See more So it turns out I have a little, some of you may have met her during a previous DID support chat. She's very new to Cups and the community so I've decided to open this AMA to allow people to get to know her. For privacy, her real name will never be shared by either of us - please only address her as "H". She will always call me "J" if referring to me in responses. Please keep questions simple and easy to understand.
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Listener Appreciation and Support
Group Leadership & Development / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 21st
...See more So I wanted to make this thread because I've been noticing a trend on cups that genuinely upsets me, so I'm drawing attention to it. I have noticed that there has been an increase of listeners leaving because of certain member conduct within the group rooms. Cups is supposed to be a safe and supportive space for EVERYONE, not just members and it seems like listeners are the effects of burnout through no fault of their own. Yes I'm well aware that listeners are volunteers and have no obligation to be here, and that they can step away when needed - however I've noticed that the amount of support listeners have has declined over the years. I've also noticed a rather unfortunate trend of members sometimes ignoring or even disrespecting listeners who are trying to keep chat rooms a supportive environment, or inform new members or fellow listeners of guidelines within the space. This trend has results in a lot of members only paying attention to moderators who do the same thing and that's quite unfair. Being a listener is a thankless job and not everyone appreciates the amount of work they put in to support us, everyone has bad says but it's not fair to take frustration out on the ones trying to provide support. I've noticed a lot of new listeners are unaware of the programs that are available to support them, and I've also noticed and heard through the grape vine that said programs have declined in quality. I want to draw attention the Mentorship program, and I want to remind people what it should be rather than what I've heard it's like now because I think a lot of people have forgotten. So here are what I think are appropriate goals for the mentorship program: * Mentors should NEVER consult Noni for providing feedback to mentees, feedback needs to stay genuine and should come from the mentor's own experience as a listener. * Mentors should actively engage with their mentees, teaching them valuable skills or lessons they've learned as a listener - mentorship should never be passive. * Mentor leadership roles should have limited slots, and given to new applicants at the end of each year to prevent burnout and disinterest. * Listeners who are Peer Support should be proactive with making sure fellow listeners feel appreciated if feeling invalidated by members. * Listeners should be encouraged to share frustrations and issues within the Cups community, leaders should be proactive in facilitating solutions to best support listeners who are struggling. While change doesn't happen overnight, I think it's important to raise awareness that this happens and if something doesn't happen - more listeners are going to leave because of the lack of support they receive. Taglist: @Heather225 @Amanda84 @LoveHashira (Feel free to add to the list, I know there are more who'd like to see this)
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Crippled Support Network..
Friendship Support / by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 14th
...See more So during the aftermath of a recent crisis, where I had no choice but to ghost people... I tried reconnecting with some close friends. Only for me to discover that both of them had moved on and given the circumstances of my "hiatus", they decide it would be better to move on than to continue our friendship... I expected an outcome like this, but literally overnight a huge part of my support network is ripped away from me and there's nothing I can do about. I can't change what happened and I feel horrible putting my friends in a situation that caused them to worry and stress over if I was okay or not. Part of me considered not reaching back out to them, but the way I vanished bothered me and I wanted to let them know I was okay. I have to accept the fact that I might have to let go of these people... And I cant force them into a new friendship. Now I'm trying to figure out what to do now, and who can take their place because I struggle with making friends.. and I'm scared to open up to anyone because people might not understand my struggles. While I've found supportive people here on cups, trying to find more offline support feels impossible.
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