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LavenderTree9
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Social anxiety. Socialising with coworkers
Anxiety Support / by LavenderTree9
Last post
 January 30th, 2023
...See more Lately I can't get out of my mind that I wish I was closer to my coworkers, but also I hate that feeling of wishing someone was my friend or something... I talk to them just fine, we chat, we joke, and I like them and they're nice. They're 3 people that I work closely with and another guy (that I find cute lol). The problem is they started sitting together to have lunch and since I lunch outside one day when I came back I saw them together, chatting and laughing and felt so left out. They didn't say anything to me. I feel they all are kinda close friends, but not with me :( They didn't invite me to sit with them and I just can't stand up and walk to the group and include myself. I just can't. Idk how to do it, what to say, I'll blush, shake, and feel so much anxiety. Just once I did it. The other day I did it, but I almost died of anxiety, and feel I can't do it again. Also I felt more at ease because the other girl wasn't around. Idk why since she's nice and she says she has social anxiety too (I never say it). They all are nice and I know they won't think I'm a weirdo but I just can't do it. I wish they would just invite me. My mom says they don't invite me (when I come back and they're still sitting together) because I lunch outside. I don't like lunching inside but I could do it, but I feel I'll just sit on my place and wait for them to invite me and that they still won't do it, and I'll end up feeling worse.
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Casual sex. Being a virgin, social anxiety.
Relationship Stress / by LavenderTree9
Last post
 February 1st, 2023
...See more Idk how to start... There's this guy on social media that I had a big crush on. One day I decided to message him and tell him I found him cute. I was so happy cause he said I was cute too and flirted back. We are both physically attracted to each other. We have sexted, so he said maybe someday he could come meet me and we could have sex. I'm so attracted to him and I want that, but I'm a 26 yo virgin, and I also have anxiety. I'm angry and sad because I can't have casual sex with this one guy that I like, like a normal person. Something that should be exciting because he was my crush, now I turned it into a problem. I'm scared that at one point he says that he's coming to meet me and I would have to tell him no. I'm scared he won't want anything to do with me because of me "rejecting" him and that he would block me. Oh also he's a couple of years younger, kinda a ***, and he has told me he likes rough sex...so that makes me feel even worse at my inexperience and my anxiety. It makes me more scared. I wish I wasn't a stupid virgin at my old age. And that I didn't have anxiety. I know I would be shaking so bad just by him putting his hand on me or kissing me. I hate this and myself for being like this. I know that I have to tell him no :(
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