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I’m so lost and confused ….

Relationship Stress / by Lovee00

July 12th, 2024

...See more I have been on here a couple of times talking about my relationship with a guy with depression….. My relationship hasn’t been good for about 8 months and it’s cause of his depression. We got engaged and a couple of months after that it all went down hill. What really makes me so frustrated is he was improving so much with the help he was getting but it ended not being consistent and that is what ruined it all … when things started to get bad he didn’t get the help he needed and kept making excuses. And now we are here at the worst time of our relationship and this is what I wanted to avoid. He got another job pretty much stepped down from what he was doing cause it was causing so much anxiety. He needs to find a psychiatrist and get his medication in order cause a lot of the ones he was on are running out or just not doing what they need to do. Today he texts me telling me he is done he doesn’t want to try anything anymore. He doesn’t want to see a psychiatrist, he doesn’t want to try anything anymore. He just is tired and done. Being where he is mentally being done and not wanting to see a psychologist will only makes matters worse. We talked today and he is telling me he is done. He just wants to see what will happen. No help, no meds ! I told him what does that even mean ? What does that do for us? You are giving up? You are giving up on getting better ? You are giving up on us! How will we get anywhere if you are where you are mentally we can’t!! When we got engaged the ring he gave me meant the world to me I was so happy . I was so proud to wear that ring I loved it I loved looking at it. It made me so happy. A couple months ago when I felt so alone and not loved in this relationship I couldn’t wear it … it was making me so depressed and so sad. Just looking at it made me cry cause I don’t know what happened to that guy that gave it to me. Today he questioned why I don’t wear it and that I gave up and I explained how much it hurts me when I see even the box. It’s heartbreaking cause that proposal and All his problems meant the world to me. But I never gave up on this relationship to this day I am telling him what we can do together . But if he is not willing to get help what can I do I am so exhausted and so tired but I love him.

Feeling so guilty ……. Why….

Relationship Stress / by Lovee00

June 27th, 2024

...See more I am in a relationship with someone that has depression. We have been together for almost 2 years and we are engaged. From the start of the relationship I knew about his mental health issues and it never stopped me. Which I think i regret now….. Our relationship was fine up until last November it just started getting bad. We had plans to get married this year , to move in together…. But all of that stopped . Not postponed to a later date just stopped! I have talked to him about how the relationship has changed so much and how I do not feel loved, appreciated, wanted, needed anything … I feel like nothing now…. He blames it on his depression …. Everything I say he blames it on the depression…. I try to make him understand to just think about how all this is making me feel. I am your partner and all my hopes and excitement of getting married is all gone. No matter what I have always stuck with him and have done so much for him. But the way he has been treating me I have just felt so unwanted and I have changed a lot. I kept begging him to just give me a little of what I need and that he is making me feel like nothing and I will get to a point that I just won’t care like I always did and that’s exactly what happened . It’s been months that I have felt ignored. We go days to weeks without seeing each other and when we do I am so upset that I make a comment and he throws it in my face and the night is ruined. On Top of all this his own family has talked to me about leaving and that I don’t deserve this and that he will never change. How he makes a lot of excuses and that he just isn’t going to ever commit like he is in a way going back to who he was over a year ago. He got so much therapy and is continuing to. There was a time he had changed so much … he was so happy and just different but right now he went back to his old ways and that’s so depressing and sad. I don’t feel like I am worth it … our future wasn’t worth him continuing to get better. He started to get depressed and he didn’t get the help he needed right away and it got to this point. I feel guilty for not continuing to just be there and not question anything . There’s days I feel so stupid for feeling like this and I think I deserve so much better. I have done everything for him . I have put up with so much because of him and he doesn’t appreciate anything . I haven’t in my life had so much panic attacks and anxiety like I do now and he doesn’t take what I have gone through into consideration. I have told him multiple times that I am not having issues with his mental health but the way he treats me I have an issue with. Why are you able to get up and go to work…. Deal with people and but on a face. But when it comes to me I am just put aside and you can’t do something small to just make me happy so I don’t feel like worthless. I feel so lost . im sorry I wrote so much.. I just typed what was in my mind.

I need help….. please 🙏🏼

Relationship Stress / by Lovee00

June 29th, 2024

...See more I have been with my partner for 1 1/2 years we are engaged and been friends for over 5 years. We had plans to move in together …. To get married this year but after we got engaged about 7 months ago things started changing . As far as I have known him he made me happy , made me laugh, cared for me , loved me ….. then 7 months ago things changed a lot of stuff happened in our lives with our families that really had nothing to do with us but he kept making it an excuse to how he was treating me . For the last 6 months I have been telling him , I don’t feel loved, cared for, I don’t think this relationship is important to you anymore, this relationship isn’t a priority anymore, there’s no intimacy, he doesn’t hug me , kiss me ….. I have tried so much and for so long to try to hold his hand, kiss him , hug him, sit next to him … and I got rejected so many times.. and now I can’t do it . There has been so many times that he shuts down if a conversation doesn’t go his way and he won’t talk to me for days to weeks…. I always tried to call him text him and now I’m numb to it all. I have changed so much it’s scaring me. Again today the conversation didn’t go like he wanted and today was the first time seeing him in 5 days so I ended up leaving which I never have done. His sister has told me that I need to leave this relationship. He will never change. He has been this way and for a while he did get so much better and our relationship was good but then he went backwards and got worse. she has told me that I don’t deserve this. He will be alone forever and I need to get on with my life because I am wasting my time with him. After talking to her it really made me realize that I am holding onto something I will never have. This is my dilemma and I know it’s ridiculous…. I know this relationship has come to a horrible spot and I am so tired and exhausted…. Should I put an end to this relationship…. OR Should I say I want a break to see what happening BTW - He isn’t cheating. He blames his mental health on how he treats me and I don’t agree with that. Please help …

Relationship issues….

Relationship Stress / by Lovee00

January 29th, 2024

He needs time, but that’s so hard for me.

Relationship Stress / by Lovee00

July 31st, 2023

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