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OhemaaAfia
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Forbidden Love 🥲
General Support / by OhemaaAfia
Last post
 August 6th, 2024
...See more Hey guys, it’s been a while since I been on here but I have yet another story to tell and as always need your advice on what I should do. This might be a long one… So I recently realized that I could be developing feelings for this guy that dated my cousin (on dad’s side) years ago and he now works for my dad. Our families were already close without my cousin having to date him because his family is close with my moms side already ok so… why am I low key developing feelings for this guy 🫢 He’s been working for my dad for about 4 years now and I’ve always known he was around but nothing that had to do with him interested me. Until… there was this party for one of my aunts. The whole community was there and a lot of the young ppl were outside taking pictures. I was talking to 2 of my friends when the guy asked my friend to take pictures of him okay cool… I was watching and I noticed my friend wasn’t taking the pictures right like it was already late a night so he needed the flash on and at least tell him how to pose and I was like let me do it because your not doing it right. So I took to picture and we went in our separate ways cool and then like 10 mins later he comes back and was like I liked this picture but I was looking down so could you redo this one for me and I was okay and then did. End of that day. Why did a few days later I had a dream about him? I don’t want to go into too much detail but it involved so romance and I was like omg already like I barely know this guy and mind you he’s in his early 30’s and I’m about to turn 20. It’s already not looking good for me. Fast Forward I would say 2-3 weeks later, he comes to my dads business bc he does work for him so I’m going to see him often but that day felt so different like I couldn’t even make eye contact. MY HEART WAS BEATING SO FAST. I managed to say hi and went my separate way. Why did I have another dream about him again like 3 days ago but this time, we were a couple and you know we did things that couples would do and it was so cool. I’ve never been in a relationship so it could be why I’m exaggerating over this but why am I all of sudden feeling things I shouldn’t feel for my cousins ex. And it’s not like he has a been reputation in the community anyway like you know the typical bad boy that sleeps around that guy. But here I am, still a teenager feeling things for this guy. So i guess my question is what should I do? I mostly likely am not going to tell him ever but what if my feelings continue to grow and I can’t hold it in anymore? What if I confess and now i look like a clown and he just thinks I’m some little girl with a crush that will fade? I actually hate that I feel this way and all but at the same time I can’t help how i feel. Bc why do I low key go to my dad’s business just so I can seen him 🫢? I have to stop myself from daydreaming sometimes I always feel better ranting on here about situations that I can’t speak about with my family bc I don’t think I could utter a word of this to my family without being potentially shamed or disowned 😕
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boy issues / past friend-ish
General Support / by OhemaaAfia
Last post
 October 20th, 2023
...See more Hey guys, I’ve came on here before about this guy I used to like and how I was stressed about not seeing him my senior year blah blah yeah okay so… Im in my first year of college now whoop whoop! The problem is we both go to the same college now and the tension is greater than ever. We are not on speaking terms probably for a year now bc I ghosted him for many reason like how he was using me for his grades and how he only knew how to text me when it benefited him and not me (I can’t believe I used to have feelings for him lord help me never again) So basically I kind of silently cut him in senior year and I didn’t say anything to him but I unfollowed on all social media without explanation because I feel like he doesn’t deserve one and if he really wants to know then he can’t figure it out on his own. (Like hello put your thinking cap on). Tbh he’s so petty now that he knows I’m avoiding and it makes it worse that we go to the same university and have 2 classes together (the universe is not on my side). I don’t sit anywhere near him and basically refuse to make eye contact or have any sort of interaction with him because I don’t want to go down the road again and get my feeling hurt all over again. It took me so long to get over him and I’m in a good place now so I don’t want to ruin that. BUT we both have a lab and we always accidentally meet at the elevator and if he goes in the elevator I will gladly wait for the next one with no shame. But this has been happening too often and I feel like now he’s using it to embarrass me if front of ppl sitting in the area. Today he made me so mad because of course I had lab today and I was walking to the elevator and I spot him sitting at a table doing work I guess so I was okay and can get on the elevator with no issues. SIKE because as soon as he see me getting to the elevator he quickly gets up and speed walks to the elevator first knowing that I won’t get on if he gets on. But it’s just the fact that he had to be so petty and run to the elevator so I couldn’t get on. At that moment, I was like god knows I’m a good person because what is stopping me from getting on the elevator now. Like what’s he going to do? But I left it alone and waited for the next one but it was just the embarrassment of ppl watching like why is she not getting on the elevator. Needless to say I’ll be taking the stairs from now on. I’m trying not to make it obvious to others because it’s not like it should affect them but I know he’s telling ppl in class which I don’t really care about but I knows he’s painting a bad picture about me which is not right. I swear on my life, I have never said anything bad about him to anyone EVER. Nobody from my high school even knows. I always acted like we were still cool and respected him the way I wanted to be respected. If anyone were to have brought him up I would just smile and nod. I’m being the bigger person and letting it go because it’s not worth it. I don’t want to fix our so called friendship (it didn’t feel on me) because it’s not worth fixing and we will just go back to how it was in high school. And I know he probably thinks I’m not talking to him because he basically rejected me when I had confessed that I had liked him but if that were the case I wouldn’t have continued to talk to him for a year straight after so… I know I’m rambling, I apologize but this just happened today and it makes me mad the he could be trying to sabotage me possibly. But really all I want is peace of mind and not having to worry about some boy from the past that now clearly hates my guts now. Lmk what you guys think of the situation and any tips moving forward! ~ Lauren ;)
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Boy Drama
General Support / by OhemaaAfia
Last post
 January 21st, 2022
...See more so I like these two guys. One for almost 2 years and the other for a month or so. Honestly I happy being around both of them. I became “friends” with the two years guy and I couldn’t honestly be anymore happier bc we gotten like close close. We were talking about crushes and I found he likes this guy (we’re both bisexual) and we’ve been playing games like asking 3 questions about each other’s crush. So I can’t obviously know he dosent have an interest in me. But I keep pushing back in my mind. He birthday was yesterday so I got him a surprise present on Friday at school and he was so happy and almost cried. He even got up and hugged me before even opening the present. He looks refused to take the present saying that it was too much and he didn’t need it. Idk but we’ve just been in a good place and idk if I should tell him that I like him. I feel like it’s so obvious now, he’s just not getting the hints. The second guy, I don’t really know him that well or maybe I just find him attractive. I really want to tell the first how I really feel bc he always asks me who my crush is and Idk if I can keep lying to him. I realized that I love him way too than I should. He’s everything I want in a person and probably even more. He’s just someone I see spending the rest of my life with.
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